Post # 1
We had big plans this weekend, or so I thought. For a month, this has been the planned Saturday to get stuff ready for our yard sale and get the gardens planted.
And what does SO do? Make other plans to go mushroom hunting with his buddy! Ok, I love mushroom hunting too, but he could have planned to go Sunday. He said it would only be a few hours. He didn’t think the yard sale and gardening would take all day. REALLY?
I just feel second best, I feel like he didn’t even think our plans were important when obviously I’ve been looking forward to it for a long time! Are boys just dumb or what?
So now he’s telling me I’m being stupid for being upset, he’s canceled his plans, but it still just hurts that I was pretty much put on the back burner when better plans came along.
Now he’s giving me the silent treatment, yay.
Post # 3
Um, mo you’re right. He committed to the yard sale/garden plan first then he should honor that, go hunting another day and stop giving you the silent treatment. Oh, tell him he’s bahaving like a child too:)
Post # 4
@gocubbies: I think this is one of those “boys are stupid” moments. I’m sure he just didn’t realize how important and exciting your plans were to you, I know my SO wouldn’t unless I explicitly told him, “THIS IS IMPORTANT. Don’t make any other plans.” At least he fixed it and cancelled his other plans. And poo on him for giving you the silent treatment.
Post # 5
guys dont get it. they really dont.
you have to be clear, and make sure he gets it.
it cant be you thought he thought you knew he knew kind of thing.
ITs annoying, and it wont be the first or last time.
just make sure all plans are clearly discussed and agreed upon so this confusion can be put aside.
Good luck! and remember guys arent that smart…… dont give them too much credit when credit isnt due 😉
Post # 6
@gocubbies: I do think it was inconsiderate of him to make plans when he knew you guys already had things planned for that day. I will say though that men really can be hard headed sometimes. They just don’t think the way we do. this has happened in many instances with my SO and when I have flipped out (because ya know its like clear as day to me that what he did was inconsiderate to our plans) he kind of has looked at me like I have three heads because he really just did not mean to make me that upset. He flat out has told me that he just did not think it was going to be a big deal.
Post # 7
Thank you 🙂 You all are right I’m sure he just needed it spelled out for him. I went on assuming it was just as important to him (he loves his veggie garden), so I think it was just a miscommunication of what was actually happening that day.
I worked it up so big in my head and am soooo pumped about it and I guess I didn’t really let him know that. I unfortunately assumed :/ Gah, it’s just one of those “why can’t you just GET IT” moments, haha.
Post # 8
It’s a man thing. My Boyfriend or Best Friend gets confused about what’s happenining when, even with I let him know several times each week – he’s always somehow surprised by most hbig holidays, birthdays and tax day (hello, they’re almost all the same day each and every year!). It can get old. He even got a smart phone to use its calendar to remind him of things…. but only uses it for work. Heaven forbid he program it with his parent’s birthdays or the like.
Add that to the male brains’ ability to allot the wrong amount of time for tasks and you have a mushroom hunting trip the same day as major work around the house. Sigh. Sorry, he needs to be directly told in the future that a yard sale lots of yard work WILL take all day, and that you shouldn’t be left home alone during a yard sale – there’s always a need for help, and for a second set of hands around to help move things around, take money and load things into old ladies’ cars.