(Closed) Am I being ridiculous?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I think relaxing should be the priority, it’s not like he spent the weekend out with his buddies– he’s working, you can’t really fault a guy who’s doing his job. 

I guess I have a different perspective because my Fiance works a lot— he also travels very regularly, and when he does finally have time off, I want him to enjoy it; I HOPE that includes spending some time with me, but it doesn’t always.  Sometimes he wants to go out with his friends, and I’m ok with that because his down-time is at such a premium. 

Post # 4
4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Why not spend time with both?

He can hang out with his buddies for a while and also spend time with your family.

Down time is down time, and he and his buddies probably want to celebrate the end of their project together.


Post # 5
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with SouthernGirl.  Can you ask him to meet you guys later in the day?  Or vice versa:  come by to hang out before he goes to his friend’s at night?   

Post # 6
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe you can take your grandpa to the parade? That may be fun and then ask your Fiance to meet up later that day. 

Post # 7
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

How many people does your grandpa really need? At some point, you’re making yourself feel better, not him, for bringing a ton of people for him to hang out with.

Let your husband do what he needs to do. He has the rest of the day to spend with you.

Post # 8
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, I don’t really think he has a choice in the matter, without really letting people down.  He already committed himself, so it’s not fair for him to back out now, just like he wouldn’t ask you to abandon your grandfather to go hang with him.

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