Post # 1
For the 4th of july my fiance has to work in the morning because his company is in the annual parade. My grandfather came up to spend the week with my family. My grandmother recently died a month ago and we are trying to keep my grandfathers spirits up by keeping him busy. My fiance had to do some prep work for the parade all yesterday and then again on the 3rd. Do you think im being crazy that I would like him to hang out with us on the 4th instead of with his friends from work? I know they are working hard and its a lot of work but shouldn’t the family be the priority especially since he has been busy all weekend and week leading up to this point?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I think relaxing should be the priority, it’s not like he spent the weekend out with his buddies– he’s working, you can’t really fault a guy who’s doing his job.
I guess I have a different perspective because my Fiance works a lot— he also travels very regularly, and when he does finally have time off, I want him to enjoy it; I HOPE that includes spending some time with me, but it doesn’t always. Sometimes he wants to go out with his friends, and I’m ok with that because his down-time is at such a premium.
Post # 4
Why not spend time with both?
He can hang out with his buddies for a while and also spend time with your family.
Down time is down time, and he and his buddies probably want to celebrate the end of their project together.
Post # 5
I agree with SouthernGirl. Can you ask him to meet you guys later in the day? Or vice versa: come by to hang out before he goes to his friend’s at night?
Post # 6
Maybe you can take your grandpa to the parade? That may be fun and then ask your Fiance to meet up later that day.
Post # 7
How many people does your grandpa really need? At some point, you’re making yourself feel better, not him, for bringing a ton of people for him to hang out with.
Let your husband do what he needs to do. He has the rest of the day to spend with you.
Post # 8
Yeah, I don’t really think he has a choice in the matter, without really letting people down. He already committed himself, so it’s not fair for him to back out now, just like he wouldn’t ask you to abandon your grandfather to go hang with him.