(Closed) Am I being ridiculous?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Don’t worry about it- marriage is something to celebrate and you’re lucky to have so many friends and family members interested in participating in your joyous occasion ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@orchidaloha:  I don’t think anyone is laughing at you!  HONESTLY!  Plenty of people have gotten married twice (or more!).

That being said, you shouldn’t have let everyone else talk you into all this if it wasn’t what you truley wanted!  But too late now, you might as well enjoy it!  

I think most people wish they had done things different when it was all over — I certainly did!

Post # 5
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You’re fine.  Think of it this way…. If you did that whole big celebration for someone who didn’t work out, and now you’ve found someone you obviously love above and beyond that first one, doesn’t that love deserve just as much song and dance as the first one?

Just because you’ve done it before does not mean you don’t deserve to have it be a real deal wedding.  



Post # 6
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

35 people doesn’t sound over the top to me! I’m sure that’s just your closest family and friends right? 350 for a second wedding might be over the top. But I didn’t read anything in your post that I’d be side-eyeing. Also, aren’t you two both still fairly young? I get that impression (in a good way, don’t worry – I’m 25 myself!)  So don’t worry and enjoy your wedding!

Post # 8
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think if YOU were the one pushing for all the bachelorette/shower/etc while your friends and family just seemed to be going along with it, that’d be one thing. But if your loved ones are voluntarily throwing all these celebrations for you because they love you and are happy for you, then you have nothing whatsoever to worry about ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
145 posts
Blushing bee

@orchidaloha:  I don’t see any reason why a second wedding has to be small. I’d never laugh at someone having a big second wedding. Why your new marriage that you’re sure your love of life has to be smaller than your mistake?

Post # 10
621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No I don’t think so.

Post # 11
7219 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@orchidaloha:  I’ve been to two second weddings that were full-on weddings and didn’t for a moment think it wasn’t warrented. To me, the people were marrying the person they were MEANT to be with, and that was absolutely worth celebrating in a big way. 

Post # 12
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

@orchidaloha:  I consider 29 fairly young! It’s not like you’re 49 and have adult kids or anything. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@orchidaloha:ย  No one is laughing at you. They love you and boy, do they want to celebrate you two, or what?! ๐Ÿ™‚ Your family and friends are with you on this, full support.

My husband and I both were married before and we had a big wedding. It was wonderful and we enjoyed celebrating anew. His sons, my stepsons, were even featured in the ceremony as part of a family blessing. We went the whole 9 yards with the big this and that, but we were still honest about what it all meant for us. It’s perfectly acceptable to give yourself permission to enjoy your second wedding in this way.

Now then, if you feel you’re being overrun, that’s another story. I see you’re only a few weeks away at this point but you can still tone some things down if you really want to without ruffling feathers of those you’ve already asked to be in your party and whatnot. Decor, your look, flowers, all can be simplified here and there so you can still feel celebratory in your way. You can gently request no gifts at the wedding if you already have plenty between you, as it is gift enough to have people present with you (whether they’ll hear that message, who knows, but at least you will have made that boundary known.)

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