- Scar_cats_tic
- 8 years ago
our 2nd valentines, we ended up going to McDonald’s ( while I got sushi next door at trader joes) lol
our 2nd valentines, we ended up going to McDonald’s ( while I got sushi next door at trader joes) lol
The years after were better, like going for fondue or brazillian steakhouses. But gifts? Nope. Flowers, yes. In guys’ mind, they think as long as they treat you for a good meal, that’s it, lol
@Christine06: DH and I don’t really exchange gifts for our anniversary. We go out to eat at the nice restaurant we ate at during our mini-moon after the wedding and call it good.
Is your DH aware of your expectations? Maybe he thinks that on top of Christmas and birthdays, adding a present to an anniversary is a bit excessive? He may not have realized he screwed up. Like another bee said, buying dinner could count as a present???
@Christine06: i believe his gift to you was the lovely dinner he planned and paid for.
@Christine06: I don’t know about selfish…but maybe you are missing the point a little. It’s not like he forgot about you. I dunno, if it were me I don’t think I would be all that upset.
I’d say dinner was the gift. But fi buys me dinner all the time & vice versa so I’d still feel like it wouldn’t have killed you to pick up some flowers. I’d be a little annoyed but wouldn’t make a big fuss. It’s not like he forgot all together, he did plan a nice dinner.
Yeah I would have thought the dinner was a gift as well. Me and FH don’t really celebrate our dating anniversary it was a big deal the first year because it was like “woohoo we made it” but now it’s just any other day. I don’t expect much from him except dinner because he loves to take me out to eat since I love going out to eat.
I’m sure after you talk to him about it he will make note of it for future anniversaries
Just wondering: If they do have joint accounts, isn’t she in a sense “paying” for her gift whether it’s a dinner or a physical gift? It all comes out of the same pot…
I come from a family that does “experience” type gifts over physical gifts, and I prefer it that way. My S/O pretty much agrees with me, but if he were the type to want physical gifts instead of dinner, trips, etc, I would do my best to get him thoughtful things for special occassions. I’d be annoyed if he expected me to read his mind on that though.
Some people consider experience gifts to be as meaningful (or more!) as physical gifts and assume other people think the same way. Thus, no physical gift is nothing personal against the giftee, it’s just a different way of looking at gifts.
For the ladies that says he “treated” her to dinner… How exactly is this? My DH doesn’t “treat” me to dinner now that we’re married & have joint finances. He can still “gift” me by getting something that I wouldn’t get myself, but I do plan on eating daily whether he “treats” me or not…
I’m really just wondering how this dinner could be accepted as the gift.
FH and I have separate finances and except for a savings account, we plan on keeping it that way. Therefore, when he takes me out to dinner, he is indeed “treating” me.
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