Post # 1
I have been to Miami for Memorial Day weekend 2010 and 2011 with my closest friends. For anyone who has been there at that time of year knows that it can get crazy and not the ideal place to be as a couple.
My husband has never been to Miami, doesnt have many friends, and the few that he has, never goes on any Bro-Mance trips. He tends to get a little jealous when me and my friends goes on road trips.
Here’s the issue: he wants to go to Miami for our honeymoon, due to limited finances and his curiosity about Miami. I dont wanna go back to Miami for the third year in a row!!!! I want our honeymoon to be something new for the BOTH of us!
My BMs say that I am selfish and its not his fault that ive been there already. They also say that since i went on a wild, crazy, very expensive, girl getaway weekend and didnt get to EVERYthing i wanted, that this could still be a new experience.
I want to say ok on the Miami thing but a part of me feel like i wont be excited on our honeymoon
Post # 3
Could you maybe go somewhere else in Florida (like the keys or south beach), and do a night of club hopping in Miami? Miami is fun for a wild time, but I’d want my honeymoon to be more romantic too!
Post # 4
yea he wants to go to south beach and both years that was where we partied hard. i will admit that it probably wont be too wild since we are going mostly during the week and its not a holiday weekend. I know it can be romantic but im like really? ive already seen this! lol.
But im trying to be positive and think that yea i went with girlfriends but now i can experience miami in a different light.
Post # 5
I dont think you’re being selffish. Arent there any other places that he is curious about that you havent been to already to so you both can experience something new together?
Post # 6
I think it’s totally reasonable for both spouses to want to go somewhere they haven’t been before for a honeymoon. There are SO many places on earth that neither of you have been–you should be able to compromise on one of them.
Post # 7
Why not ask him to reconsider Miami as a guy’s trip for the future? I’m sure if you sit him down and explain you want your honeymoon to be in a location neither of you have been before so it can be even more special he would understand.
Post # 8
How about a compromise? You promise to plan a trip to miami in the future for the two of you, but find a different destination for the honeymoon. What is it about Miami that he likes? Wild nightlife? Beaches? Warm weather? Food? There are plenty of locations that will include all those things, as well as things that you may look for in a honeymoon. How about some of the Carribean islands? If he hasn’t traveled a lot he may just be unfamiliar with other options. Once you show him some of the Carribean resorts and what they offer he might be more willing to compromise. Good luck!
Post # 9
I think it’s understandable that you’d want to explore somewhere new together for your honeymoon. There must be SOMEWHERE else he’s interested in going!
Post # 10
@KatyElle: I agree. There are lots of places in Florida besides Miami- the Everglades, the Keys, Cape Canaveral, Disney/Universal/Sea World, lots of other cities and beaches. Could you take a general Florida trip, maybe spend one day/night in Miami, and travel to other areas the rest of the time?
ETA: Or, what about taking a cruise? Tons of cruises take off from Florida- maybe you could go to Miami for a day or two and then set off on a Caribbean cruise or something?
Post # 11
these are some great ideas ladies. the reason he is so hung up on Miami is because the beach, we can drive, warm weather, cheaper than my other ideas ie Puerto Rico
Post # 12
Maybe a cruise where you leave from Miami or visit Miami on your way to or from the departure location? Go a day early and spend the evening there so you can show him around?
Oops. Already been said. I second that.
Post # 13
You are not being selfish. There are plenty of other places in the world that you can go to on a budget. Have you thought of Punta Cana in Dominican Republic or Cancun in Mexico pretty affordable places and very romantic and exciting. Find common ground, you’ll be married forever and will have plenty of chances to go to Miami. Your honeymoon has to be something new and exciting for both of you not just one of you.
Post # 14
You are NOT being selfish in my opinion. My thought is, if you are willing to go as far as Miami- there are cheap destinations SO close to there (The Keys, Bahamas etc.) Also you can find SUCH cheap cruises out of Miami (read 200/pp or less!) so maybe you can do a few days in Miami, and then a short cruise to the Bahamas? Just a thought.
Post # 15
I personally don’t think you are being selfish and I had the same experience when planning our honeymoon. While I have traveled the world and then some my Fiance hasn’t been to many places.
If you aren’t excited to go on the honeymoon then it needs to be changed. We had planned to go to Hawaii and my Fiance noticed I just wasn’t that into it (I am personally not a fan…). The minute we changed to Walt Disney World it became something we BOTH could get excited about and plan together. That makes a huge difference.
Post # 16
I don’t think you are being unreasonable. There are tons of other places to go, surely you both can be happy going somewhere new together! You can alwaays plan a trip to Miami again in the future.