(Closed) Am I Being Selfish?

posted 7 years ago in Travel
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Could you maybe go somewhere else in Florida (like the keys or south beach), and do a night of club hopping in Miami? Miami is fun for a wild time, but I’d want my honeymoon to be more romantic too!

Post # 5
14660 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think you’re being selffish.  Arent there any other places that he is curious about that you havent been to already to so you both can experience something new together? 

Post # 6
1415 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think it’s totally reasonable for both spouses to want to go somewhere they haven’t been before for a honeymoon. There are SO many places on earth that neither of you have been–you should be able to compromise on one of them.

Post # 7
2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why not ask him to reconsider Miami as a guy’s trip for the future? I’m sure if you sit him down and explain you want your honeymoon to be in a location neither of you have been before so it can be even more special he would understand. 

Post # 8
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

How about a compromise? You promise to plan a trip to miami in the future for the two of you, but find a different destination for the honeymoon. What is it about Miami that he likes? Wild nightlife? Beaches? Warm weather? Food? There are plenty of locations that will include all those things, as well as things that you may look for in a honeymoon. How about some of the Carribean islands? If he hasn’t traveled a lot he may just be unfamiliar with other options. Once you show him some of the Carribean resorts and what they offer he might be more willing to compromise. Good luck!

Post # 9
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it’s understandable that you’d want to explore somewhere new together for your honeymoon.  There must be SOMEWHERE else he’s interested in going!

Post # 10
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KatyElle:  I agree. There are lots of places in Florida besides Miami- the Everglades, the Keys, Cape Canaveral, Disney/Universal/Sea World, lots of other cities and beaches. Could you take a general Florida trip, maybe spend one day/night in Miami, and travel to other areas the rest of the time?

ETA: Or, what about taking a cruise? Tons of cruises take off from Florida- maybe you could go to Miami for a day or two and then set off on a Caribbean cruise or something?

Post # 12
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Maybe a cruise where you leave from Miami or visit Miami on your way to or from the departure location?  Go a day early and spend the evening there so you can show him around?

Oops. Already been said.  I second that.

Post # 13
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

You are not being selfish. There are plenty of other places in the world that you can go to on a budget. Have you thought of Punta Cana in Dominican Republic or Cancun in Mexico pretty affordable places and very romantic and exciting. Find common ground, you’ll be married forever and will have plenty of chances to go to Miami. Your honeymoon has to be something new and exciting for both of you not just one of you. 

Post # 14
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You are NOT being selfish in my opinion.  My thought is, if you are willing to go as far as Miami- there are cheap destinations SO close to there (The Keys, Bahamas etc.)  Also you can find SUCH cheap cruises out of Miami (read 200/pp or less!) so maybe you can do a few days in Miami, and then a short cruise to the Bahamas?  Just a thought.

Post # 15
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I personally don’t think you are being selfish and I had the same experience when planning our honeymoon. While I have traveled the world and then some my Fiance hasn’t been to many places.

If you aren’t excited to go on the honeymoon then it needs to be changed. We had planned to go to Hawaii and my Fiance noticed I just wasn’t that into it (I am personally not a fan…). The minute we changed to Walt Disney World it became something we BOTH could get excited about and plan together. That makes a huge difference.

Post # 16
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think you are being unreasonable. There are tons of other places to go, surely you both can be happy going somewhere new together! You can alwaays plan a trip to Miami again in the future.

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