- Miss Moxy
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I had this conversation with my husband, (YAY, I’m married!!!) And he thinks his family is just bad at communicating. I get the feeling it’s only when I’m in the picture….but, you tell me?
I feel like my in-laws are excluding me from family events, information and outings. They preach on and on about family togetherness but don’t seem to include me or my husband in things. I guess this wouldn’t bother me so much if I didn’t move closer to them, alienating my birth family in the process (I’m too far from them, and I’ve never been this far for such a long period of time, especially my ill father.). There were 2 reasons for moving: 1. My husband’s job is here and 2. To have a better quality family life with my inlaws.
I work with my Mother-In-Law, as an assistant to her, and I have to hear about family things (events, life changes) from coworkers. I’m the last coworker to know too. I literally sit 6 feet away from this woman! It makes me feel unwanted or underserving…..and the looks I get from coworkers, mostly of disbelief, make me feel like quiting my job. (I hate this job anyway, I’m just doing it as a favor to my Mother-In-Law and for the lack of employement in my area)
Recently, I went to see my BIL’s2 (I have 2 BILs so I’ll refer to them as 1 and 2) band play at a pub to show support. When I got there, I was very disappointed at what I saw. My Mother-In-Law, Father-In-Law, one of my SILs, BIL’s2 girlfriend, BIL’s1 new fiance and fiance’s friend all sitting at a booth, finishing dinner. (BIL1 was not there). The dinner I was never told about, even though they all knew I was going to the show. My husband had a tiny WTH moment with me as we walked towards them.
Throughout the night the ladies at the table ignored me, especially Brother-In-Law1’s new fiance. I sat there just listening to the music at a table of talking heads but none of the conversation drifted my way. I tried to make conversations and I get this, “Oh, you’re here..” kind of look. They talked in an intentionally vague way about the engagement party and when I asked when it was, they weren’t sure…..later I found out, from the SIL that it’s this upcoming saturday and they planned it weeks ago. Then my Brother-In-Law2’s Girlfriend grabbed all the girls to go dancing with her by name! I added myself to thier mix but was quickly dubbed at the photo/video girl.
After 2 hours, Mother-In-Law, Father-In-Law, Brother-In-Law1’s fiance and friend left. Brother-In-Law2’s gf and my SIL sat at the table with me and started talking about their plans to go upstate to see my other SIL for a fun visit. They talked about all the fun stuff they were going to do. I wasn’t invited, neither was my husband.
My inlaws seem to be more enthrawed with the supermodel like girlfriend and fiance who never comes by, than their newly aquired DIL. Seriously, I wouldn’t feel this bad if I didnt leave my family, my friends and my career. I feel isolated.
Am I just being sensitive?