Post # 1
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Bumble bee
Yesterday was a very scary day for me and Fiance. He passed out first thing in the morning at work. After he woke up he started throwing up. Instead of calling someone they send him home. I begged him yesterday to go to the doctor and he doesn’t. Today he stays home from work ad again I beg him to go to the doctor. He insists he feels ok and doesn’t need to and gets mad and says I should lay off because it’s his choice to go to the doctor or not. There are two BIG problems with this. 1) he friggen passed out at work, followed by vomiting, sleeping for 16 hours at home, and a high fever all day. How is that not a sign you need to go to the doctor? Even the nurse they staff said he needs to be checked right away for diabetes. 2) he works for a company that would happily fire him for not showing up and for leaving early even if he was told to by the company nurse. Without a note from the doctor it’s like him being sick never happened and they will gladly fire him to hire someone that they can pay less. His main excuse is he doesn’t want to pay the doctor bill. Ok, so you’d rather slip into a diabetic coma or get fire than pay $50 to a doctor? I offered to pay it! He is so mad at me right now because I keep asking him to go to the doctor. Am I being wrong or controlling? I know for a fact he wouldn’t let me get away with not going…
Post # 4
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Busy bee
I don’t think you’re being wrong at all!
He doesn’t have any idea what’s wrong and is refusing to go to the doctor? That’s just scary!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Oh my! This is scary stuff. Maybe goodle some symptoms and show him what the results are..tell him you love him, and if he loves you he would go!!! (((hugs))
Post # 6
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Honey bee
Keep hounding him. This is HIS LIFE on the line!!!! Not to mention his job could be compromised too. Fiance refuses to go get his moles checked out, so I’m planning on pulling out the waterworks and say things like “What will I do if you die of skin cancer” or something…mean? maybe…I don’t care.
Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
I think when you are in a relationship, you are obligated to take care of yourself even more than if you were on your own! It was actually in our vows that we would do that for one another.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
There are a lot of very bad things that could be, and if he’s still sick more than 24 hours later, not a lot of not bad things that could be.
I would definitely say go to the doctor.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
You are not wrong in the least!
When Darling Husband had chest pains a year or so ago, it took me 3 hours to convince him to go to the emergency room. I said “if you aren’t going to do this for you, do it for me!” and he finally went.
I hope he’s ok!
Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
The last time I forced my husband to go to the hospital they kept him for 3 days as his KIDNEYS were in the beginning stages of shutting down.
So yeah. Have the biggest hissy fit in the world if that’s what it takes for him to go. He should also know that if he has a doctor’s note his company legally can’t do anything.
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
You aren’t being wrong AT ALL! He is being stubborn at a time he should not be. He NEEDS to go to the doctor, prob an emergency room if he’s still running a fever. I hope he will listen to you and go and I really hope he’s ok.
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
You aren’t wrong. Tell him that even if he doesn’t care about his health for his own sake, he owes it to YOU to keep himself healthy to the best of his ability. You need a partner who will make sure that he is the strongest and healthiest he can be.
This might be totally wrong, but my husband didn’t go to the doctor for a long time because he was afraid of what he would find out, and how that would affect his life. He was also afraid of doctors judging him. I don’t know if that’s a factor here, but it might be something to keep in mind. When Darling Husband finally did go, he found out he was borderline diabetic. He has since changed his diet and exercise habits radically, lost 80 lbs, and feels better than he had in years.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
Ok thank you ladies. I feel a bit better. I’ve been getting flack since yesterday from my mom and Future Mother-In-Law and Fiance about how he is a grown man and can make his own decisions and it’s not my body to control. It may not be MY body but it is the love of MY life and it would be MY life being affected too. He finally called the doctor but he is still pissed at me saying how mean I have been being because I won’t let it go. Ok fine be mad at me as long as you are alive.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
@Corilee13: You might be interested in this article:
Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
As someone who hates doctors and who avoids them at all costs, I think he needs to seek medical attention. I flat out refuse to go to the doctor unless I’m bleeding profusely or in uncontrollable pain, however, if I passed out then started throwing up, I’d probably take it as a sign to get checked out.
Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
@Corilee13: I’m glad he called the doctor, keep us posted on how he is doing and I hope he’s on the mend soon.
