(Closed) Am I being tacky?

posted 8 years ago in New Jersey – North Central New Jersey
  • poll: Is is tacky to have a wedding on thursday?
    Yes : (13 votes)
    16 %
    No : (33 votes)
    40 %
    should we do it on a saturday and take off the open bar? : (5 votes)
    6 %
    wine and beer would be fine : (31 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    what do YOU want?

    Post # 4
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    617 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    If you don’t want to do it on a Thursday then I think the wine & beer option is perfectly fine if you can still swing it. 

    Post # 5
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    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Personally, because the wedding involves such an intimate number of people, all of whom are close, I’d say that everyone would be happy with whatever YOU choose. Your aunt says as long as they get to see you married, they wouldn’t mind paying for drinks. I think it’s safe to say that they want to see you married, and probably don’t care if it’s Saturday or Thursday.

    Post # 7
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    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    That’s a really hard decision. Are those really your only options? Would there be an in between option if you booked a Friday night or had an afternoon wedding? Could you limit the bar to beer and wine only (on either Friday or Saturday night)?

    If you really have to choose, I think it would depend on how many of your guests are out of town and how important it is to have them there. If I was local, I wouldn’t have a problem with a Thursday wedding, but if I was flying, I probably just wouldn’t go.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I say go with what you want.  Do the Thursday wedding.  People that want to be there for you will make the effort to go.    People coming from far away might enjoy making it a long weekend, vs rushing in Friday night/Sat morning and leaving Sunday.

    Post # 9
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    762 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I agree that your aunt probably is representing the views of the family. I wouldn’t say it’s “tacky” but your family would probably be happier that they get to see you get married!

    Beer and wine would be fine. Also, have you checked prices for Friday or even Sunday? Sometimes those days are cheaper too. I wanted an expensive venue too and I thought there was no way we could swing it but I saved so much $ by getting my own linens, doing inexpensive favors, and non-floral centerpieces hat we are having a premium bar! (the only other option besides beer and wine, otherwise we would not be doing it)

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I don’t think you should do it on a Thursday with so many people traveling.  I would rather go to a wedding with a limited or even a cash bar on a Saturday, than try to figure out how I would attend a Thursday night wedding out of town.

    Post # 11
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would ask your family/ close people you are inviting- and get a feel for what they think.  In the end, do what is right for you.  We are doing a Friday because our venue was FREE.  (I love that word.)

    Post # 12
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    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    PS- people don’t need an open bar.  Just give them something to drink- and people that like drinking will go for whatever it is 🙂

    Post # 13
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    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We are having a destination wedding, and purposely chose Thursday. Everything is cheaper (including flights and hotel rooms) and we wanted to try and keep it a small wedding. We knew having it on a Thursday may pose some problems for some people, but thats ok with us. We dont want people there that arent willing to make that sacrifice, and we arent offended if they cant make it. I think with a destination wedding its important to somewhat cater to your guests, so open bar is a nice thing, though not required. Lots of people do welcome parties, and day after brunches for desination weddings, but not everyone.

    Bottom line: If its better for your budget and YOU dont mind, then save yourself some money. If you are too worried about having a mid-week wedding, then save yourself the stress and stick with Saturday. Do what is right for you and your fiance. You are the ones that matter. 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee

    you take the best road for you and h2b. We chose a Sunday to save on costs. It’s what they are there for.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Have you looked into having it on a Friday? The discounts may not be quite as good, but we still got some great deals with our venue for doing a Friday night wedding!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    honestly i think a mid-week wedding is inconvenient but not tacky.  if it makes sense for you and your partner then people will understand the same way they dress in tuxes for a black tie wedding or travel for a destination wedding.  i personally think a cash bar is tacky.  i would rather attend a wedding with no booze option but a lovely punch or iced tea than the option to pay for available drinks. 

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