(Closed) Am I being taken advantage of by my wedding planner?

posted 11 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Am I being taken advantage of?

    No, relax and let the planner handle everything on her own schedule - she's experienced!

    Yes, and tell her you have a problem with her services thus far!

    Yes, but don't mention anything -- most of the tasks are completed anyways!

    I have no idea.

  • Post # 3
    324 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Do you have a contract/agreement that states what her responsibilities are?  Because if your list includes all the tasks she is supposed to be taking care of, then yes I would think she is taking advantage of you.  

    I don’t have a full-service planner, more like “half” service planner. Our contract outlines her responsibilities leading up to the wedding.  When I email questions, I typically get an answer same day or the very next day.  Her responsibilities do not include booking any of our vendors, just making suggestions.  However, when I asked about chairs, she went above and beyond and handled that rental for us completely.  Sounds like you need to have a heart to heart with your planner.  You certainly don’t need this kind of stress during your studies.

    Best of luck!

    Post # 4
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    If I paid 6k + for a wedding planner I would excect EVERYTHING to be taken care of for me with the exception of asking me some questions to clarify design and such. That is just my honest opinion. What did her package include?

    Post # 5
    47 posts

    For 6,000+ she better be doing EVERYTHING except marrying your Fiance. 

    Post # 6
    475 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    WOW are you kidding me?! $6000 and she’s not done much for you AT ALL!! I have a wedding planner and we chose the unlimited package that basically says that she does everything and we have unlimited meeting hours and phone calls, emails etc and I paid $1800 and we are getting married in Atlanta. My planner has found and set up all vendor meetings, gone to every appointment, I can contact her anytime I want, she handles all proposals and contracts before getting them to me, handles RSVPs, talks to vendors, she basical does and coordinates EVERYTHING.

    You are paying her a serious chunk of change and you have to talk to her. She’s not living up to her contract, I’m assuming, and the whole point of the planner is to PLAN.

    Sorry 🙁

    Post # 7
    3968 posts
    Honey bee

    @mooloomu: I’d ask to arrange a sit-down meeting with her ASAP so you can talk to her about your expectations and understandings of the services  you purchased.  Take your Fi with you.  Make a list of what you need her to do from now until then.  You do NOT need to be thinking anything about wedding while studying.  As her to give you updates on a ‘x’ basis (weekly/monthly?) so you know those things are taken care of.  And, like other’s have mentioned:  what services were in the package you bought?

    Post # 8
    2159 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    IMO it’s not the wedding planner’s job to book your honeymoon anyway, but everything else definitely should have been handled by her. Our wedding planner presented us with the information for her recommended vendor for each wedding aspect, as well as several alternatives, and then we chose from those or asked for more options.

    She basically did all the legwork hunting down and researching things, and then presented our findings to us, and we gave feedback and made decisions.

    She also planned out our timeline and made suggestions on when DH and I would want to buy/order attire, complete our guest list, have people RSVP, etc.

    Yours honestly just sounds like she’s trying to get away with being a DOC or venue coordinator instead of a full-on wedding planner. Do you have a contract with her? I highly recommend you and your FH go through the contract and look at exactly what it outlines her duties to be. If it’s on paper, then she has no excuse.

    Then get in touch with her any way you can, and explain that she has not held up her end of the bargain and done X, Y and Z, and that from now on, and especially on the day of, you expect her to be available and on top of things, and communicate with vendors as per your agreement.

    I’d probably ask for a discount no matter what. She sounds ridiculous.

    Post # 9
    740 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    If you agreed to pay her $6000, you should have a detailed list of the responsibilities she would/would not do.  I would reference that contract and then go from there.  If you have just been very on top of things and booked them without telling her to do so, then that’s your fault for not having her do it for you.

    Post # 10
    396 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Wow! We paid our Wedding Party about 1/2 of what you’ve paid and she organized most of what you’ve mentioned you have done. She is a very well known and respected planner in the area so I am worried you paid a lot and arent’ getting your money’s worth. I also had unlimited access to her via e-mail, phone and when I panicked also many in person meetings. I have to say I “booked” all the vendors but she gave me her preferred/recommended vendors. I would speak to her ASAP.

    Post # 11
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Wow that has to be the most I have heard of anyone paying for a wedding planner!  Agree with PP that everything on your list except for the honeymoon should have been booked my her.  I would met with her and be very clear about what you expect from her and when.

    Post # 12
    5165 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think you paid more than triple what most people I know have paid for a planner. I am also interested to know what your contract states as far as her responsibilities are concerned. You should just tell her the things you want her to do rather than doing it yourself.

    Post # 14
    3968 posts
    Honey bee

    @mooloomu: how much did you pay her as a deposit?  can you get out of your contract?  

    Post # 16
    748 posts
    Busy bee

    It sounds like they are taking you for a ride… big time. I would refuse to pay her.

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