(Closed) Am I being too controlling??

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My husband came up with all sorts of crazy ideas for what to wear… I just always told him that he could wear whatever he’d like and I’d marry him anyway. And I really would have. If you’re marrying the kind of guy who would actually wear a baby blue tux to his own weddding… embrace it!

Post # 18
2324 posts
Buzzing bee

This has made me laugh. Let us know how you go!

Post # 19
1751 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@caiti_182: I feel your pain!


The bad news is blue tuxes still exist!




The good news: only High School kids wear them. (show him this:


“Rent or buy this dumb and dumber Baby Blue Tuxedo for the perfect look this year at prom. This authentic blue tux makes the best prom outfit!”


and maybe he will realize that while this is a good laugh at the prom, he’s gonna seem mega out and immature wearing it at his own wedding) (at least I hope he sees it this way.) (I’ll be keeping you in my prayers, ๐Ÿ˜‰


Post # 20
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I wouldn’t care. It’s his wedding too and I would want him to wear what made him happy.

And as a guest, I think it’s fun to see something offbeat. I’d laugh and admire the groom for being such a unique individual.

Post # 22
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I do think this is being too controlling. It’s his wedding too, did he get to dictate what your going to wear? I doubt it, let him have his suit if his heart is really set on it, it’ll be a good way to start your marriage with everyone happy. 

also it’s not a compromise if he’s forced to do what you want it’s a militant dictatorship. 

Post # 23
3725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@caiti_182: Tell him to wear it to the rehearsal. He can drive up in the shaggy dog van or moped of his choice too! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 24
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@worldtraveler:  yup.

I mean, even if he can find one….who cares really? 

Post # 25
7646 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know this probably won’t make you feel any better but:

My dad wore baby blue tux for my parents’ wedding back in 1983 (it looks powder blue on the cake but it was baby frickin’ blue). It actually didn’t look too horrible (it didn’t have the same white shirt like in dumb and dumber).

Despite the baby blue tux, they have been happily in love for 30 years ๐Ÿ™‚

I, personally, would say NO to a baby blue tux, and try to reason with him on maybe a tie and vest and socks.

TBH, I still think he is messing with you, even 7 months away from the wedding. My husband and his best man were messing with me up until 2 weeks because my Darling Husband told him he could wear “white, beige or cream shirt. It doesn’t matter.” Yes, honey, it does matter because against white they will look dirty lol.

Post # 26
5188 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@caiti_182:  Dare him to wear it! See what he does. Find one, rent it, and hang it right in his closet. If he seems mortified you’ll know he was just joking. If he’s thrilled, then just go with it. Let him have his thrill for the day. It’s his wedding too, and fun doesn’t have to mean un-classy.  

Post # 27
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@caiti_182:  Can you get his mom to help you? Make sure he understands these pictures are forever and his grandkids will laugh at him and totally not understand the joke in it.

Post # 28
3208 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

He must be pulling your leg…

Post # 29
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had a guy friend in high school rent a baby blue tux for prom – it wasn’t uber-ruffly like the Dumb & Dumber tux, though ๐Ÿ˜›

Perhaps just try going shopping with him and encouraging him to try on a wide range of stuff?  He might be sticking to his guns about the light blue tux b/c he feels left out of decision-making…I know you said he wasn’t interested in the details (photographer, gifts, etc.) but was he on-board with all the major decisions (date, venue, color scheme, size of guest list, degree of formality, etc.?).

It’s not quite the same but my Fiance is dead-set on cake-smashing.  After much debate and pointing out how much I’ll be spending on hair & makeup (we are both pretty frugal) he’s toned it down to ‘just a dab of icing on [my] nose’ but I’m hoping we can continue to ‘compromise’ ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 30
4690 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

You’re NOT being controlling. Anyone would flip!!!!!!! What about this?

or seersucker?

Post # 31
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

this is a BIG NO!!!  You want your Fiance to look handsome, not to be a joke.  A really dumb joke, at that. 

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