Post # 1
So my sister who is my Maid/Matron of Honor tried her dress on a few weeks ago and it was tight. I wasn’t there butthe text me to say she was going to lose a bit of weight like 2-3 pounds and the salon told her to come back in a few weeks. My other BMs got fitted and just picked up the dresses today. One of the dresses was made too tight by mistake, so when my Bridesmaid or Best Man bent over the tiniest bit, theI zipper split open and has to be replaced. I guess it’s better it happened now than on my wedding day. And the dress really was a lot tighter than the other BMs. Like the one that split had to be really pulled tight to zip up.
Anyways, now I’m worried that since my sister hasn’t lost any weight and has done nothing at all to make her dress fit better that her zipper will split like one my wedding day or after we’ve already left for Ireland and its too late to fix. So I kind of tried to scare her into doing something about it tonight. But now I’m feeling bad. So do I seem like a huge bitch of a sister by saying “so and so’s dress was so tight the zipper broke. Have you been going to the gym?” and yes, I actually told her not to eat junk food, not drinking alcohol and maybe go to the gym. When she got measured she was going to the gym all the time. I think I’m pissed that she wouldn’t even think oh I should be careful of gaining weight and keeping my measurements the same so I fit in my dress
Post # 3
Honestly, that was pretty dick. Really rude.
Post # 4
really, I would just let it be. THis is your sister’s weight issue not yours, and from someone who has struggled with my weight (those constant 10-15 lbs) I KNOW when someone says that to me it makes it worse. My ass gets glued to the couch and I drink beer…..
If you are supportive when she DOES do these things…..it may help…OR you could ask her to go for walks with you or go to the gym with you…..
Post # 5
yeah that’s ridiculous. I could never imagine treating anyone that way, let alone my sister.
Post # 6
Yeah, that’s pretty Bridezilla-esque right there.
I would apologize and say that you are stressed, but you are sorry for hurting her feelings if you did.
On another note, that does suck that the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses aren’t working out at optimal conditions.
Post # 7
Yeah, in fact I find that be disgusting behavior. Trust me she probably beats herself up about it enough with out you adding to the chorus. If you said anything, it should have been to gently caution her againist getting the dress too small given that it already ripped on someone else.
Post # 8
Her dress cannot be let out or have fabric added because of the style. The style that she picked and insisted on wearing. So there really isn’t any other options. The dress took 4 months to come in and my wedding is in 6 weeks. It’s not even in a common color so it’s not like I can go to David’s bridal and just get a different dress in the same color.
Post # 9
@gonatgo: really? please take the bee’s (and MY) advice….I actually am trying NOT to be snarky towards you since this is an issue that REALLY hits home wiht me….
The fact that your sister gained weight is not the issue here…it’s your attitude towards her about it…it’s a dress….
I can’t imagine treating my BM’s like this (and my sister has weight issues….)
Post # 10
That’s awful it’s just a dress.
Post # 11
As someone who has always had to battle with my own weight, I think it’s very likely that your sister is well aware of the situation and will do what she thinks is best to address it. I don’t think it is in any way helpful — and, in fact, it may be very hurtful or even counter productive — for someone else to attempt to tell her what she should and should not be doing to fit better in her dress. I think you should apologize to her and tell her the truth, that you’re just really stressed out about wedding details, including the fit of some of the dresses for your destination wedding, given what happended with the other bridesmaid’s gown.
Post # 13
Honestly Davids should have measured her differently or really altered the dress to be bigger.
Loosing 2-3 pounds wont change anything, and some people loose weight in every area but what may be needed or may add muscle, and so on.
As far as being mean, yeah, your sister most likely is already humilated and may not be thinking the way you do about weddings, dresses and priorties.
Post # 14
She said she was going to lose 2-3 pounds. I don’t know why you felt the need to say anything.
I guess I could never imagine saying anything like that to my sister since we always support each other in healthy body image and food/exercise habits.
She’s a grown woman. She can make her own decisions about eating junk food, drinking alcohol and going to the gym. I mean really, she already admitted that she needs to lose 2-3 lbs to fit into the dress. So why say something? Plus we aren’t talking about 20 pounds. 2-3 pounds is really not that hard to lose in a matter of 6 weeks.
Post # 15
If I were your sister, I would gain 10 extra lbs just to tick you off.
Sorry, but you were way out of line. It’s a dress. Seriously. Just. A. Dress.
Post # 16
Yeah it was pretty crappy and if you are going to have a bridal party then you should expect for things like that to come up. I will NEVER understand why people have bridal parties, it’s the weirdest concept to me. Plus, she’s an adult, it’s her problem to fix, not yours.