(Closed) Am I being too picky? Ring setting question….

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
1695 posts
Bumble bee

Can’t you take it into the jeweler’s and ask for the diamond to be set lower? That looks ridiculously high and unsafe for your diamond if it gets hit out of it.

Post # 3
401 posts
Helper bee

You could give it a couple weeks to see how you feel. But you could always call your jeweler (or any jeweler) and explain your situation and ask if it’s an easy fix. I’m no jewler, but I feel like lowering the stone a little bit shouldn’t be a big deal. I have had a stone set in a brand new setting while I waited 5 minutes, so maybe they could lower yours while you are there. Just ask first.

And regarding your fiance, it’s not like you’re asking for a new ring – you just want to lower the stone a bit to have a more practical profile 🙂

Post # 4
1517 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t want it set that high, either.  Jewelers can easily reset the diamond lower 🙂

Post # 5
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - State Park

I would think it would be a pretty easy fix to have the prongs shortened and have the diamond sit lower. 

Post # 6
648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Not too picky at all – that looks crazy high!


Post # 7
180 posts
Blushing bee

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lccbee:  beautiful setting but I would be fuming if I had such a big gap, especially as it’s so much bigger than what you asked for.  You definitely need to get it reset similarly to the lower profile you initially tried on, especially if this is something that attracted you to the setting in the first place.  I would probably contact the original jeweler to request this work be done free of charge, including the pictures you have above.  Good luck, hope you get a solution.

Post # 8
1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I see what you’re talking about. Take it to the jeweler and see if they can have it set lower. Just tell your Fiance that you’re worried about the stability/safety of the stone and that you’re afraid of banging it on something. It isn’t a new ring, just a small tweek! Beautiful setting btw and congrats!

Post # 9
10041 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s really easy for a jeweler to lower the stone and clip the prongs to make them a tad shorter since lowering the stone will cause the prongs to look longer. But overall it’s a quick fix, I’d just stop by the jewelers alone and see if he can fix it real quick for you.

Post # 10
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I think it’s too high, especially with the bottom point of the diamond being fully above the setting. That would be a bit nerve wrecking.

Post # 11
58 posts
Worker bee

I was in the same position fortunately my first didn’t think it looked right either. Except t was a custom so know we are still looking. I have a stand in ring…that’s right I’m spoiled. When I was looking there was a ring that was crazy high they said not to worry they can set it higher or lower and it wasn’t a problem. Duo it does sound like it would be eeasy. Good luck on what ever you choose I know it is hard to bring it up. 

Post # 13
280 posts
Helper bee

I can see the gap, you are not seeing things, but it is also expected with a larger stone. You will be wearing the ring everyday so you should be happy.  Have you tried it on with a future wedding band?  That gap may not be noticable anymore.  Good luck.  If still unhappy I would talk to you husband and see if a jeweler could repair it.

Post # 14
3170 posts
Sugar bee

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lccbee:  The original setting is definitely lower than yours, so you’re not being picky in that respect. Ask for it to be re-set, and explain to your Fiance that you love the ring and you just want to make sure you won’t be knocking it into anything because of the high setting.

Post # 15
2331 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

Yes it definitely looks a lot higher and I would take it in and tell them you would like it lowered as much as possible.  don’t worry they will not think you’re picky just tell them you use your hands a lot and you are concerned about banging it into things and damaging the stone. I did that with a ring because I kept banging it on everything and it was not a problem at all  -in fact it was part of my maintenance warranty anyway just like sizing

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