(Closed) Am i being too pushy???

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe. You’re doing all you can by the sounds of it. :/ I’m sorry some of your guests are being difficult to contact. I would let it go or keep trying. Chances are they already know you are trying to contact them. 

Post # 4
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13294 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is this a deadline you set, or a hard deadline set by the travel agent/venue?  If it’s a hard deadline, I’d say you absolutely aren’t being too pushy with the ones who responded.  For the ones that say tomorrow is pay day, I’d give them the day leeway… but other than that, you’re within your right to follow up!

Post # 5
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46675 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have never heard of the concept that guests are expected to reply to a STD. Even for a destination wedding, other than one that involved a close family member, I have not booked anything until I received an invitation. Too much can change between the dates that STD’s and invitations are sent.

Post # 8
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2715 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think I’m confused.  You sent out Save-The-Date Cards with a link to your wedding website.  Have you sent out actual invitations? Or was there just something on the website asking if they are coming – like a poll? What happens if they don’t put down their deposits?  Can they still go to the wedding?  Maybe they are making their own arrangements?  When is the wedding?  I think all you can do is just send a reminder to people letting them know that the trip deposits are due and the rest is up to them. 

Post # 10
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2715 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@shel_lee_1:  Ahh ok.  I understand now. I think your best option is still to just give them all the information about pricing, due dates, when the rates increase, etc. and leave the rest up to them (which sounds like what you’re doing).  You can send an email, fb, phone call, or whatever sort of reminder before each of the deadlines.  But only do it once per deadline, anything more than that I think starts to get pushy.  They are adults and should be able to figure it out.  Understand that October is really far away and people might still be trying to figure out if they can go.

Just out of curiosity what kind of destination wedding is this that requires guests to purchase packages?  Are you going on a cruise?

Post # 11
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7291 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yeah. I don’t understand why your guests need to put a deposit down? Isn’t it you who pays for the wedding, and you would be needing to reach certain deadlines?

I always assumed people could book hotel rooms and flights etc at their leisure and financial capability.

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