Post # 1
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Blushing bee
Hi Ladies, just after your views to perhaps let me know if I am over reacting or if I need to get over myself!
I invited a girl I know through my partner to my bachelorette (which I had about two months ago). She was coming with her partner to our wedding and I do know her- but not that well. I thought it would be a good opportunity for everyone to meet before the wedding etc. She didn’t come as she had prior arangements, which is fine.
She is getting married shortly, and I knew her bachelorette party would be coming up – as my husband had gone to her FI’s stag. Bottom line, I have seen on Facebook that she is having her bachelorette tonight and that I have obviously not been invited. My feelings are hurt – I would like to get to know this girl better and I feel let down that she hasn’t invited me. It makes me feel quite awkward – I am going to her wedding in a couple of weeks and I feel left out.
Do you think I have the right to be angry with her? My husband thinks it is no big deal and I should get over it but I do feel hurt. Am I over reacting?
Thanks Ladies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
Maybe her bachelorette party is just for her bridal party and/or really close friends. Also, she is probably not the one that sent out the invites, so since she is getting married shortly, she is probably overwhelmed by everything; not really and excuse, but since you and her aren’t close, she probably didn’t think about putting you on the list. I think you have a right to feel hurt, but the hurt was probably not intentional.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
I guess I’m of the mind that a bachelorette party is only for those already really close to the bride. Maybe she feels the same?
Are you upset because you want to be better friends or because you invited her to yours and she didn’t return the invite? Also, it’s been two months since yours, have you become closer since then at all?
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
I said other… I wouldn’t be offended because if you aren’t close then there’s no reason for you to be invited, I’m only inviting my closest friends on my bachelorette weekend, but since you invited her it would be courteous for her to invite you
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Everyone has a different bacheloretty party and different expectations of who should be invited. I’ve been to some where almost all of the young women invited to the wedding are invited to the bachelorette. I’ve also been to them when it’s bridesmaids only. Mine will be VERY small.
I understand why your feelings would be hurt, but don’t worry about it. I’m SURE its nothing personal!
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
IMO Bachelorette parties are not the right time to get to know someone. It’s a time to cut loose and have a good time with your very close friends.
If you want to get to know this girl than invite her and her hubby out/over for dinner after the wedding.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
@FMM: agreed.
I actually invited some ladies that are not such good friends to my bridal shower but not the bachelorette party….the bachelorette party is going to be when I let loose with people I am already really close with. I would not be offended…
Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Yeah, bachelorette parties are a time to go wild with your best girlfriends. Usually it’s just closest friends/bridal party from what I’ve ever seen.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
As @noritake22: said, it’s possible that she was not the one who did the inviting. My Fiance was the best man for his friend’s wedding and he was the one in charge of the bachelor invite list and managed to forget to invite his friend’s Brother-In-Law to the bachelor party =P so I wouldn’t take it personally.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
I’m not having a bachelorette party but if I were I’d likely only invite those I’m really close to (aren’t they usually with just a few people?) I wouldn’t be offended.
Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
i agree with everyone else. i don’t think you should be offended, but you have a right to your feelings and i understand why u are upset. but i don’t think its anything personal. who knows if she just didn’t think of it, had no control over the guest list, thought you guys hadn’t become closer so you weren’t expecting an invite, or maybe she thinks you only invited her because you felt obligated and thats why she didnt come. basically, i don’t think she is purposely excluding you whatever her reason.
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