(Closed) Am I being too sensitive

posted 7 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Am I being too sensitive
    yes : (38 votes)
    83 %
    no : (4 votes)
    9 %
    other - please explain : (4 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Maybe her bachelorette party is just for her bridal party and/or really close friends. Also, she is probably not the one that sent out the invites, so since she is getting married shortly, she is probably overwhelmed by everything; not really and excuse, but since you and her aren’t close, she probably didn’t think about putting you on the list. I think you have a right to feel hurt, but the hurt was probably not intentional.

    Post # 4
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I guess I’m of the mind that a bachelorette party is only for those already really close to the bride.  Maybe she feels the same? 

    Are you upset because you want to be better friends or because you invited her to yours and she didn’t return the invite?  Also, it’s been two months since yours, have you become closer since then at all?

    Post # 5
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I said other… I wouldn’t be offended because if you aren’t close then there’s no reason for you to be invited, I’m only inviting my closest friends on my bachelorette weekend, but since you invited her it would be courteous for her to invite you

    Post # 6
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    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Everyone has a different bacheloretty party and different expectations of who should be invited. I’ve been to some where almost all of the young women invited to the wedding are invited to the bachelorette. I’ve also been to them when it’s bridesmaids only. Mine will be VERY small.

    I understand why your feelings would be hurt, but don’t worry about it. I’m SURE its nothing personal!

    Post # 7
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    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    IMO Bachelorette parties are not the right time to get to know someone. It’s a time to cut loose and have a good time with your very close friends.

    If you want to get to know this girl than invite her and her hubby out/over for dinner after the wedding.

    Post # 8
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    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    @FMM: agreed.

     I actually invited some ladies that are not such good friends to my bridal shower but not the bachelorette party….the bachelorette party is going to be  when  I let loose with people I am already really close with.  I would not be offended…

    Post # 9
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Yeah, bachelorette parties are a time to go wild with your best girlfriends. Usually it’s just closest friends/bridal party from what I’ve ever seen.

    Post # 10
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    385 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    As @noritake22: said, it’s possible that she was not the one who did the inviting. My Fiance was the best man for his friend’s wedding and he was the one in charge of the bachelor invite list and managed to forget to invite his friend’s BIL to the bachelor party =P so I wouldn’t take it personally.

    Post # 11
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    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’m not having a bachelorette party but if I were I’d likely only invite those I’m really close to (aren’t they usually with just a few people?)   I wouldn’t be offended. 

    Post # 12
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    7296 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i agree with everyone else. i don’t think you should be offended, but you have a right to your feelings and i understand why u are upset. but i don’t think its anything personal. who knows if she just didn’t think of it, had no control over the guest list, thought you guys hadn’t become closer so you weren’t expecting an invite, or maybe she thinks you only invited her because you felt obligated and thats why she didnt come.  basically, i don’t think she is purposely excluding you whatever her reason.

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