Post # 1
Last May Darling Husband (at the time FI) and I sat down and spoke about me quitting my job so I can be able to pick up and drop off my daughter (his stephdaughter), so I can find something to do and do it well since I will be choosing it and it will make me happy. I decided to take a hobby and sort of turn it into a small business. I opened up an etsy store, bank account, etc and love what I do during the day while my daughter is in school. Once school is out, I can only work on computer or paperwork not hte actual business because the process is dangerous to do around children. Plus I wouldn’t want to since it’s my and her time. Well, my in laws keep emailing me job openings at FIL’s current job (he is retiring – kind of being forced out at this point – this year). I am not sure they understand that I have opened a business. They know, they’ve seen my products, they’ve purchased a ton. I don’t think they understand that I am not looking to work at another job at this time. Do you find this odd? I wonder if the Father-In-Law just is getting depressed with retiring and is emailing me tons and tons of job openings at his company so that he still feels connected to the place? It’s to the point where I just delete these emails. Before it was a quick reply of “thank you”. Now I don’t even respond. What would you do? Is this a sign that they don’t like I am home? I shouldn’t worry but I can’t help it. Any advice ? Thank you in advance!
Post # 2
hegetsme: It’s totally annoying, but try not to take it personally. I am working at home right now as a consultant, Darling Husband and I are trying to start our own company. It’s only been a few months so it’s very small at the moment, but honestly, we’re in pretty good shape for our first quarter. I mean, we’re alive and paying our bills.
My family and his family though? As far as I can tell, they have no concept of what I do. If I make a comment about working, they just sort of nod it off. I’m always getting asked to do things in the middle of the day (My grandparents are retired and my mom doesn’t work every day, and works afternoons some), and they seem to have a hard time grasping that no, I really prefer to work during the day like any other place.
I joined an office share for a bit to help myself get out of the house more. I kid you not, my mom actually asked me “So what would you do in an office.” SERIOUSLY? Wth? What does anyone do at an office? lol, Darling Husband and I are still laughing/cringing over that one.
I think it’s worth saying one more time in person, “Hey Father-In-Law, I’ve been getting a lot of job adds. Thanks for thinking of me, but Darling Husband and I are both happy with my working for myself.” The end. Then auto delete them if he keeps sending them.
Post # 3
hegetsme: I think they’re genuinely trying to be helpful. Have you (or DH) explicitly told them, “Thank you, but shegetsme isn’t job hunting at the moment, the small business is her job”.
Post # 4
Well, I would probably just delete the emails and hope that’s the extent of it. If they actually bring it up with you, then I would explain that you’re not looking for a job and are very happy with your home-business and daughter. But I wouldn’t go bringing it up.
Post # 5
On top of this I would like to add that I do have Fibromyalgia. They also gave my number out to the church (they religiously go to and we sometimes go to) and this woman called me who is looking for a full time husband and wife team volunteer to take over an entire committee. My husband works about 80hours a week and I work I want to say about 50 hours a week. I know it was them that gave my number out. I declined the offer.
Post # 6
Thank you for the feedback ladies. I appreciate it 🙂
Post # 7
hegetsme: is there any chance they think you guys are struggling financially and are trying to be helpful? Maybe an off handed comment that you or your husband made that they took too literally?
Post # 8
They definitely know we are not struggling at all.