(Closed) Am I being too sensitive?

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception

@Chreee123: no advice, just wanted to offer you some support. I joined Teach for America after college and taught in an inner-city school in Las Vegas for three years. I think that the public at large has no concept of how difficult being a teacher is. I think teachers get painted as just nurturing and cute or hardened, bitter, and terrible at their jobs. I didn’t even realize it myself before I started teaching. Being a teacher is very physically demanding and, if you truly value being good at what you do, it requires an enormous amount of mental energy, time, and planning.

However…..it’s unbelievably rewarding. You’ll be so happy once you start teaching. You’ll love it! Good luck!

Also…..I totally roll my eyes at people who mock teachers’ summer vacation time. I would always think to myself, "I would love to watch you come on in and wrangle the 150 thirteen-year-olds who come parading through my door all day, THEN tell me I don’t deserve my vacation."

Post # 18
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Worker bee

You’re not being too sensitive. People’s views on teaching (as people’s views on every other job except the ones they’ve had) are always very skewed. It can hurt more as a teacher, I think, because teaching is such a social job.

I think you maybe need to bring up how much it bothers you again, because it sounds like the message didn’t really get through, but I also think you’re going to develop a thicker skin about it.

People say such things all the time. They resent teachers for their long vacation, without having any concept of how difficult it is to engage today’s young people and to attempt to help them with their problems and then to go home and worry about them some more. They don’t understand that teaching is a 24/7 profession in a lot of ways. Likely their children have learned to lack empathy too. It’s sad.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2020 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception

Wow, that is so rude! Teaching is seriously one of the most rewarding jobs. I wouldn’t trade my job for anything!

I have gotten some flack though because not only am I a teacher, I’m a preschool teacher. And not only that but a Montessori teacher at a private school, which is an educational method that a lot of people don’t understand. But I could care less because I go to work every day and I love my job. How many people can say that?

The summer vacation thing is irritating too. Try handling a classroom of 30 three to five year olds every day, and then tell me I don’t deserve a vacation.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Comments like that just need a: "Wow.  I can’t believe you just said that."

Post # 21
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Newbee

I completely understand.. Both of my parents are elementary school teachers and I am going to school to do the same, and they are CONSTANTLY working out of school doing all kinds of little things that people don’t even consider when they think about the job, my dad is working the summer school this summer, five days a week, five hours a day.. This same issue came up where a parent of one of the kids in the school system said the exact same thing about teachers and it really got my dad mad.. People will be ignorant though, and he didn’t get involved with it because he wasn’t going to change this guy’s opinion.. Everybody else around him, including teachers though, tore every one of this guy’s arguments down though, making my dad feel better about it.. In my opinion, teachers have one of the hardest jobs, because it doesn’t end when the school day is over, they have to interact with all different kinds of people from all different kinds of backgrounds, meet deadlines and standards of all kinds and do so much extra work outside of the classroom that it’s crazy.. This guy will only understand if he spends a day in the classroom..

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

I think everyone who thinks being a teacher is "easy" should be locked in a classroom with 30 kindergarteners for 6 hours — on a RAINY DAY.

I had a boyfriend once who would make comments like, "Yeah I only get 2 weeks vacation a year, because I have a real job." ?!?! 

I know this doesn’t help you at all,  but I totally understand. You’ll hear this kind of stuff your entire teaching career. Hopefully your Fiance will understand more as time goes on and he sees your dedication, your hard work and how TIRED you are when you come home from dealing with those children all day… and how poorly you’re likely to be compensated for it! Right now you’re not a teacher yet, so maybe he doesn’t have that firsthand knowledge. But I bet he’ll figure it out pretty quick!

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Ugh.  As a 4th grade teacher, that comment instantly strikes a chord with me.  As rude as it was for him to say straight to your face, as many of the other people have already mentioned before me, it’s a common assumption that people make about the teaching profession.  I honestly believe that the only people that truly understand the time, effort, compassion, etc that goes into teaching IS teachers!  (and some people that are related to teachers)  Unfortunately, this is a comment you are going to have to get used to….I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying that won’t be the last time you hear it.  And I will say, it stings just as much each time you hear it.  Grr.

Anyways, congrats on choosing teaching as your profession.  How many people can honestly say that they impact the lives of others on a DAILY basis.  We are under paid and under appreciated, but I wouldnt change my job for anything in the world.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

p.s.  please excuse all my grammatical mistakes.  I just reread my post, and I am embarrassed by the number of mistakes I found!  I’m supposed to be a TEACHER for pete’s sake!  haha.  I blame the late hour and my heated emotions!

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Too sensitive?  ABSOLUTELY NOT!  I’m a before and afterschool + summer camp teacher right now and I’m in the process of getting my teaching credential.  In a conversation at a family party one day I was telling someone how I’m a teacher and what I do and my husband made the comment along the lines of "oh, she’s not a ‘real’ teacher…" and I was like WTF?!?!  Needless to say we had a nice, long conversation about my not being a ‘real’ teacher once we got home.  He was apologetic and said that his words came out wrong.  I felt like it was totally offensive and it is.  People don’t understand how much of an impact you have on a child’s life, even if you only spend 4-5 hours with them a day, or on those summer days when you are with them for 10+ hours.  PLUS, they have NO IDEA how exhausting of a profession it can be.  Seriously, the Future Father-In-Law, friend, and even your Fiance are all quite rude for all of that and your are right in what you said to your Fiance and if that conversation happens again with your Future Father-In-Law, the friend, or both of them, I think you need to, as my co-worker says, "Blow their hair back!"

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

No, you’re not being too sensitive.  This guy is an a$$.  It doesn’t matter if he felt that way, he really shouldn’t have said it (not like his feelings were justified).  I have heard that people with this profession seem to run in to comments like these pretty often.  My advice to you is just think of a witty remark in order to respond to these people.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I came to the party a little late but I have to make a comment. NO, you are NOT being too sensitive! I am a teacher (also a Teach For America alum) and, as many previous posters have said, I HATE HATE HATE when people make comments like this. One of my FI’s friends (well, more like casual acquaintences, thank goodness) said something like, "Oh, a kindergarten teacher, you must have it so easy," when I told him what I did. Um, yeah, you try teaching 20 4- and 5-year olds to read. It’s not all rainbows and coloring books, dude. The bigger issue I have with comments like these, though, is that it just perpetuates the attitudes that many people in this country have about teachers and their value to society. Teachers are overworked and underpaid, and while yes, there are bad teachers in the world, that’s true in any profession. We are teaching your children to be intelligent, respectful, thoughtful people! Maybe if teaching was better respected, there wouldn’t be all these "lazy teachers who just want a summer vacation" (and there are not as many of those as people seem to imagine there are, either).

 That being said, I wouldn’t start a fight about it with your Fiance (and you clearly have not done that, so not saying you would, just saying!), but I would stand my ground about it and if it happens again, I would definitely bring up the fact that you both need to support each other, especially when someone belittles your life choices. And then I would probably say something scathing to the commentor. But you are probably not as mean as me ๐Ÿ˜‰

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