(Closed) Am i being unfair???

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2742 posts
Sugar bee

You’ve been with him since you were 13? How long have you been together? I don’t know what to tell you except that you should limit the amount of time you spend with her. Also, how far away do you live from her? You and your Fiance should communicate more so he should know how much you really are rattled by his mother and he should agree with you on that regard. As for her comments, yikes. I don’t know what to say.

Post # 4
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74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

He needs to do a few things. First of all, he needs to recognize that comments such as those from your Mother-In-Law are completely inappropriate. Second, he needs to be willing to make the decision as to the role she’s going to play in your lives and stick with it (instead of later blaming you).

It might be useful to bring a third party into this – a counselor (best case) or nonbiased family friend, for example.

Post # 6
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

First, this woman is either ill or evil.

Second, you came to the right place. Tons of bees of Future Mother-In-Law problems.

Third, I stopped seeing mine and so has my husband (stopped seeing his mother) because of far far less than what you are describing.

NEITHER of you should see this woman. If you are pregnant, you do not need the stress.

This is insane!

Post # 7
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree:  Stay away from her.  If you have to see her be polite and civil but do not engage on any level.  And politely excuse yourself from any gathering at her house or anywhere else she might be.

The thing that concerns me most is that you said she is pushing alcohol on your Fiance who is in recovery.  It’s even more important that he remove himself from her presence.  Something is definitely wrong with her.  But don’t say that to him, it will stress him out even more plus he’s probably aware of that. 

He does need a professional therapist help him figure how to handle being around her.  Or to be able to make the decision that he is better off not having any relationship at all. This is really a difficult situation but protect your relationship and take care of yourselves, especially since you are having a child soon.

 

Post # 8
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

OMG! I am so sorry. All I can tell you is that your Fiance needs to recongnize her behavior as inapropriate. he needs to realize what she is and what she is doing to your relationship. He needs to make the decision on whether or not he wants to continue seeing his mother. If he choses to see her, let him see her, but you don’t have to go with him. I would stay far away from that woman as much as possible. There is something wrong with her mentally.

Post # 10
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

How does he have an ex she loves if the two of you have been together since you were 13?

Post # 12
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@NanaluvzGeo: He’s 27 and his mom is stuck on someone he dated at like 16? Wow, does she ever need to get over that one!

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