(Closed) Am I being unreasonable?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@millielue:  You are absolutely not being unreasonable.  If she has agreed to stand up and be a bridesmaid, she wears what you pick or, at the *very* least, something you agree with.  Let her and your parents know you’ve decided you won’t want to burden her with wearing something she’s going to be so unhappy in and she doesn’t need to be in the wedding after all.

(Edited as I forgot to finish my thought I was so annoyed on your behalf)  =)

 

Post # 5
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210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

um yeah, no. You are not unreasonable. I dont have any good advice but you are for sure not crazy. This is uncool.

Post # 6
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all. If it was my sister…I would be very pissed off and stressed out. She shouldn’t be behaving this way and making this more difficult than it should be. Would you be okay if your sister wore the dress she purchased but without the stockings and hat/veil?

Post # 7
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869 posts
Busy bee

Wow, so sorry you have to deal with this. A top hat???  Not unreasonable at all.

Post # 8
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Just politely tell her that this is the vision that you have for your special day and that you would want nothing more to have her there with you but if she is unable to go along with your vision it would break your heart but you would understand if she doesn’t want to take part in it.

Post # 9
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

There’s been a lot of controversy on the boards about the role of bridesmaids, but everyone agrees that, assuming the outfit is within their budget, they should wear it, preferably with a smile. You are not being unreasonable.

ETA: Your outfit sounds so fun and lovely!

Post # 10
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2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You should be able to request the things that you want. I don’t think you are wrong.

Post # 11
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3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You’re not unreasonable.  She is.  Maybe she feels it’s ok to protest, because she is your sister.  Stand your ground. 

Post # 14
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@millielue:  I completely understand how you are feeling. I’m pretty sure I would feel the same way if I had a sister and being in this situation. I agree with the PP who suggested to stand your ground. Tell her how you feel and how much it would mean to you for her to wear it. Good luck!!

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