- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Ok bee’s, I need some of your helpful opinions and advise please as I cannot turn to my support network for advice as its about them ha ha..
Sorry it’s a bit of a long one:
As a brief background – my mom and sister (who is my Maid/Matron of Honor and only bridesmaid) live in a different country to me, so I went dress shopping with my Nan, who I am extremely close with. My Nan and I had a wonderful time and I found a dress. I know my mom was hurt that I didn’t wait to go shopping with her (on her planned visit next week). But I explained to her that I didn’t have time to wait – because of the ordering times ect, I needed to order my dress.
So my dress has come in perfect timing as my Mom is visiting next week, so I have booked an appointment to go and try it on, with my Mom, sister and Nan. My 3 closest people all together to see my dress and hopefully make up for my Mom missing out the fist time – Perfect… Until last night when I got a phone call off my Nan saying she has invited my 15 year old cousin along. Er, what? This cousin has recently moved back in with my uncle and started bothering with my Nan, 6 months ago she couldn’t even be bothered to pick up the phone and say happy birthday on my Nan’s 70th, it was me who picked up the pieces and saw the hurt in her eyes, but I digress…
If I’m honest, I’m really uncomfortable with the idea of this cousin being there, I haven’t seen this cousin for well over 10 years, and we are not what you would call close, in fact she is a stranger to me – I would not know her if we passed in the street (sad but true) – I don’t want her at my dress fitting.
I hinted that fact to my Nan and she has said that is fine, her and my cousin can go shopping while I take my Mom/sister to the dress fitting. Great, so I can either have a stranger there or not have my Nan there – I resent it.
I do know my Nan is trying to pull everyone back together, I understand this, I really do, but is my dress fitting really the appropriate time. I feel a heal and the bad guy for saying I don’t want my cousin there, it will hurt my Nan’s feeling.
I have slept on it but I still feel as torn, am I being unreasonable by not wanting her there? Am I being over sensitive and romanticizing the idea of a dress fitting, it’s only a dress fitting, should I just suck it up for the sake of my Nan..
Thanks for reading x