Post # 17
They actually didn’t keep the dresses. They sold them… And a tea length dress is not appopriate for a formal winter wedding anyway. I didn’t get to go to college because I had to take care of our grandma. I done what I had to do to actually make a future for myself. Unfortunately I didn’t get things handed to me like she did. They’re cars are paid for, but new none the less. While I feel bad that they didn’t get the whole $100 back. I made the decision I had to so that my life wouldn’t be completely pay check to pay check (something she’s never experienced).
Post # 18
How much did they get for the dresses?
Post # 19
I would either offer to help pay for part of their dress…or if they are unwilling to buy their own, I guess they wouldn’t be in the wedding anymore? You shouldn’t have to beg and plead for them to buy a new dress, but they are within their own right not too since they had purchased one already. No matter my financial situation, I wouldn’t be thrilled about buying a second dress for a wedding. But if you can afford to offer to pay part, that might go a long way.
Post # 20
It would be a thoughtful gesture to contribute $100 toward the cost of the new dress, if only to show her that you recognize the financial sacrifice she has already made. I honestly think this will make you feel better in the long run too. I totally agree with the others that her financial situation is irrelevant here. Everyone has their own path, some easier and some harder. It is clear that you have had to make some sacrifices in your life. While your cousin may well have money to burn, it’s not her responsibility to sink more than a fair amount into your wedding. It sounds to me like you have some resentment toward her that perhaps goes beyond the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. Are you sure this is someone you want to be with you through the whole wedding process?