- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
So, I want your honest opinions on if I’m being a totally unreasonable bridezilla, or if I’m reacting the way you would react.
I’m getting married in Canada (shocker I know!), and my brother and his family live in Texas. They had their first child last year, and so far he is my only nephew and my parents only grandchild. They’re coming home for my wedding, as well as my SIL’s parents (so the baby’s other grandparents). They want to get the baby baptized while they’re home for the wedding since all the family will be around as well as his other set of grandparents. And I’m more than ok with this, I’m actually really excited about it because I miss out on so much with him since they live so far away, so I’m glad I’ll be there for one of the big moments in his life! But then my Mom dropped this bomb on me: she wants to do during my rehearsal for the wedding! I told her that I really didn’t think it was a good idea because:
1.) Alot of the people that are going to be at the rehearsal aren’t going to know my brother or the baby, and isn’t going to want to sit through a baptism – and I just think it’s rude to be like “Hey guys, come practise to try and make our day perfect, but first sit through this strangers baptism and be really bored!” The Mom said that they could just leave, but I told her that we’re going to be having some type of rehearsal party and I don’t want to be late for it and have everyone else involved in both be late for it too! And she said that it won’t take that long, but byt the time you do the ceremony and take a few pictures – it’s a least 30 or 40 mins!
2.) After a baptism there is usually a little get together – just a small luncheon or something – that they wouldn’t be able to have because of the rehersal party.
3.) It’s my freakin’ rehearsal! I don’t want to be worried about keeping the other people occuiped – I’m sure I’ll be stressed enough about it all – I don’t want to worry about how the flow of the rehearsal/baptism is going to go.
4.) Mom thinks that they’ll be a lot of family at the rehearsal so it’ll be a good time to get it done – there won’t be. Just the people that are involved in the ceremony. And then the people that want to attend the baptism that don’t have anything to do with the ceremony will be bored sitting through the rehearsal.
We’re getting married 45 mins outside of the city (and the rehearsal will be there), and most of us live in the cute and my brother and his family will be staying in the city when they’re here. So I suggested that they just do the baptism during the week here in the city since most of us will be in here anyways, and the few that live the 45 min away can come in if they want to. They we’ll be able to have the lunch for the baptism and still have our rehearsal to ourselves without the worry about the baptism.
Anyways Bees, what do you think? Am I being unreasonable, should I just let them do it or should I stand my ground?