- 5 years ago
My three nieces are in my wedding. From the beginning my sister-in-law and brother always said they would pay for their costs. I found my wedding dress and we found the mother-of-the-bride dress. Naturally, I want to now start looking for the flower girl dress and two junior bridesmaids dresses.
I asked my sister-in-law what their budget was, that way I can work around it. I said to just give me a range that they’re comfortable with. She told me to get whatever I wanted. She said they already set aside money for the wedding/girls, so I don’t have to worry about the budget.
Our wedding is a formal wedding. The men are wearing tuxes, my mom is wearing a floor length sequin dress, and I’m wearing a ball gown.
I sent her a link to two different flower girl dresses I was interested in. One was $108. The other was $167. They would have been cheaper, but my niece is really chubby/big for her age, so she wears a dress 2 sizes bigger than the average child her age. I found junior bridesmaids dresses $100 each. In total, the cost for all of the girls will be around $350-$400.
I’m already paying for my nieces hair to be done, their shoes, accessories, and my parents are paying for their hotel costs.
It’s a destination wedding. My brother will be deployed and not in attendance. My SIL has to stay home with the youngest child.
Originally she was going to go (It would have cost her $200 for flights, $1,500 for hotel, $150 hair & makeup, and whatever she would have spent on her dress). So by only paying for the 3 girls, she’s saving a ton.
I told her we don’t want gifts, just the girls dresses paid is enough. Now she’s saying the cost for their dresses is too much, but she won’t give me a budget!
We are maxed out on our budget, I can’t pay for anything else. My parents are aleady paying extra for their hotel fee, and they’re covering the costs for food, etc. for the girls during their stay.
I feel like I’m not being too unreasonable on prices, but what do you think?