- 4 years ago
My partner and I have been together a bout 2 & 1/2 years, we have a son together, and I am currently pregnant with our 2nd.
He had never officially proposed, had made multiple attempts, but they always fell through (surprise leaked, money problems, and then we were in a car wreck )…We spoke some about it, knew what one another wanted, and we set a date in July when they company he works for shuts down for vacation week.
Then yesterday, I’m in the closet getting dressed, my oldest son (5) is running around in his undies going crazy, our 1 year old is pulling books off of the shelf…and he steps and in, drops to his knees, and asks me to “marry him tomorrow because he just doesn’t want to waste anymore time, he wants it now”.
We’ve discussed it before, and every time he said he was waiting for the right time, and he wanted it to be something special.
There was no ring, which I don’t really mind-but he also had to work the following night and my son had school, meaning by the time we picked my son up, we would have an hour and a half to go to the courthouse and get it done, and he would have to leave straight for work. There would be no wedding bands, no evening together, not even a dinner to celebrate. Just wham-bam-over.
I have been really upset about it. I am so excited at the thought of being his wife, but the fact that he was perfectly ok with that scenario has really made me feel like he thinks very little of the wedding day, and is just worried about the legalities of it.
I’m sure my pregnancy hormones are making it worse, but I have cried the last 2 days thinking about this-and I feel like a horrible person. I never imagined I would be the type to be disapointed by a proposal, but it didn’t even feel like one.
Am I being unreasonable?