(Closed) Am I being unreasonable?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee

My Fiance picked me out a heart diamond, I thought I’d hate it but I  love it because its a gift from him. That’s all that really matters, you know.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

what if it was a 1.5c princess? would you be ok with it then?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Um, a two carat ring is enormous.  So is a 1.5 carat ring.  I think that yes, you’re being rather spoiled and putting way too much emphasis on the size of the diamond.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

yes. just because you have the money doesn’t mean there aren’t better places to spend it. why not a 1.5 princess?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What about a 1.5 carat princess cut? If a princess cut is what you have your heart set on, then get what you want. You guys can always upgrade the stone later to a bigger one if you decide to do that later. Many jewelers will give you the value of your current stone towards an upgrade.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

There shouldn’t be a big difference in price between the princess cut and the round cut, so I’m not sure why he would say that.  The size (going from 2 ct to 1.5ct) will certainly make a difference in price, but the rest will depend on the quality of the stone (cut, color, and clarity).  I would look into 1.5 ct princess cut stones, so you can still get the look you want without the larger price tag of a 2 ct diamond.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

why not just get 1.5 princess then?  shop around, you’ll find a princess cut diamond that you’ll like somewhere.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well, he’s right in that you can get more diamond for the same price by not getting a princess cut, because a really good princess cut is hard to find, especially in a larger size, and is priced accordingly.

Also, a 2ct princess in an AGS0 cut is roughly 7mm x 7mm, while an ideal cut 1.5ct round is roughly 7.4mm in diameter, so they would actually face up roughly the same size on the finger.

Fundamentally, if he’s buying it, it’s not really your choice, but especially in this case where the smaller round diamond would have roughly the same finger coverage, yes, I’d say it’s a bit unreasonable.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yes – to be upset that your soon-to-be-FI only wants to get a 1.5 carat diamond instead of a 2 carat diamond – you are being extremely unreasonable.  Just because you have the money for a 2 carat stone doesn’t mean that that is a good/smart way to spend it.

It wouldn’t be unreasonable to ask him to consider a 1.5 carat princess cut instead of a 1.5 carat round though.  If he asked for your input on what you would like, expressing a prefered shape is very reasonable.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes I would say that is being unreasonable.  Not to sound rude but it is the marrige that counts not the size of the ring.  It is a piece of jewlery not a husband.  I would be happy with anything.  Mine cost $1000 and is .4 carats and I was over joyed.  I think we all should have reasonable expectations.  Would you drop that much $$ on something for him?  It’s his money and he can spend however much of it he wants.  Wouldn’t it be better to invest that money, pay for the wedding or put it towards a house or retirement?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I love my 1.5ct round mine-cut ring, but it is a totally different style than princess.  If princess is what you love, I’d say go for a smaller diamond still in the cut you like best.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sorry about the ginormous picture! Resizing FAIL!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

My husband also could of afforded the price tag on a larger ring, but we were not comfortable with spending so much.

You just need to make sure you AND your Fiance are on the same page; whether that be the price tag for a 2 ct or a 1.5 ct 🙂 Everyones budget falls at a different place and if you both agree a 2 ct works for you, then you are not being unreasonable.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

Maybe he already bought you the 1 1/2 round?

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