(Closed) Am I being unreasonable?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

OMG!  No way are you being unreasonable!  I would have dragged his butt over there if it were me.  I originally wanted to get married in Oct and my venue was already booked for that entire month almost 2 years in advance so we had to move up our wedding to September!!  So 7 months is nothing.  I would strongly suggest that the next time you find a place, book it yourself.  Do not wait for him anymore because if you do, you may end up losing another spot.  Good luck to you!

Post # 4
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If your Fiance doesn’t seem all that interested in making time to look at venues, dates, etc then just look at it yourself. Take one of your Bridesmaid or Best Man with you and go looking and lock it in if you love it! In my mind, he has had plenty of chances to look at it and your only going to get more stressed by doing nothing and waiting for him.

Post # 5
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7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think guys have a different perspective of timeline and availability when it comes to wedding planning.  I can understand why he wants you to wait for him, but at the same time, you need to set a date.  Give yourself a little time to cool down and tell him that you are tired of getting your hopes up on different venues and need him to commit to two weekends where you can go do venue hunting.  You may have to budge on date, if you find the perfect venue.  We ended up pushing back our wedding almost 5 months because the venue we ended up with wasn’t available.  That gave us a long 14-month engagement.  I was NOT HAPPY about it at the time – but it all worked out in the end. 

The best advice I can give you is take a deep breath, be firm with your Fiance and have him give you concrete times.  He has to realize that he’s been pushing it off and you’ve been trying to be patient.  I hope you are able to make progress SOON!!!!

Post # 7
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree that men have no idea what planning a wedding involves. I had my Fiance out looking at venues with me within 2 weeks of getting engaged. He thought I was nuts,.lol. We booked our venue for a July wedding in mid Oct which is completely normal. I would let your Fiance know if he wants any input on where you get married then he better go with you or you’ll go alone and book whatever you like.

Post # 8
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241 posts
Helper bee

Generally when someone has to ask that question, they usually are. But in your case, you are being far too patient! I agree with 7-9-11bride menjust don’t know what it takes to get a wedding together. I still remember explaining to my honey that you can’t expect to get engaged and get married within 2 months. (Although I know its been done… I can’t imagine what those brides went through.)  Just visit the venues take tons of photos and then decide together one evening. That way you willl both have participated, and you’ll get to get it done on your schedule.

Post # 9
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

Dealing with people booking weddings everyday, you would be SO surprised at how many people just don’t understand that people book a year in advance on average!  I think you need to tell him that either you go alone or he does on the date you pick and that’s that.

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