(Closed) Am I being unreasonable? Bridesmaid issues… (Long, sorry.)

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 5
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5269 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2016

Ummm I say ask her if she really wants to be part of your special day and gonna be supportive. Just tell her that while you “respect” her opinions, you are gonna do what you want in the end. And if she cannot get on board, BYE!!!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree with sooner365 entirely

PLUS- I think light green and champagne (gold) is beautiful! Is it like a mint green color? Its very romantic/vintage and if my wedding was in the spring/summer, I would be ALL over that shiznitz.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Kant: I would talk to her face to face and let her know that the day is about you and not about her.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I probably would deal with her.  I’m having issue with one bridesmaid and I’m just dealing with it.  It’s really frustrating but to me its not worth ruining our relationship over.  I just don’t ask her her opinion anymore.  I have three other bridesmaids, my dress is picked, their dresses are picked, she’s not planning my shower or bachelorette party so I don’t really need to involve her much further then her showing up.   It’s a tough situation and you just need to weigh the consequences.  Are you going to lose your relationship with both cousins if you kick one out of the wedding?  do you even want a relationship with them in the future?  How involved does she have to be?  It’s just kind of tricky

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

WOW…WHY CAN’T PPL JUST UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS YOUR DAY AND TO JUST GO ALONG WITH WHAT YOU WANT AND DEAL WITH IT…THE ONLY TIME I WOULD HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY IS IF THE DRESS WAS AN OUTRAGOUS PRICE…

WHEN I TOLD MY SISTER MY COLORS SHE SAID THAT IT WAS NICE…THEN WHEN I CHANGED IT SHE WAS LIKE YAY!!! I DIDN’T LIKE THE OTHER COLORS…I ASKED HER WHY DIDN’T SHE SAY ANYTHING AND SHE SAID ITS YOUR WEDDING AND IF THATS WHAT YOU WANTED I WASN’T GONNA CHANGE YOUR MIND.

WEDDING BRINGS OUT BAD MANNERS IN PEOPLE

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think that you should talk to her… like PPs have stated, let her know that this is YOUR day and you don’t want to hear her negative opinions.  If she doesn’t think she can keep her negative comments to herself, then ask her to step down.  Maybe she doesn’t realize how much of an ass she’s being.. ask her how she would feel if you had something bad to say about every choice she makes for her own wedding.  She needs to grow up.. seriously.

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