- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
This might be long, so sorry. It’s also not something I ever thought I’d be posting, so I’m gutted that I am. I’ve been close friends with these girls for 16-25 years, and they’ve been great up until now.
I don’t expect much of my bridesmaids, and have been very laid-back throughout the whole process. Literally all I expect of them is to choose their dresses, attend fittings for their dresses, come to my hen do (bachelorette), and turn up on the day. That is seriously it. But recently I feel like even that is asking too much.
1) 2 of them are moving abroad early March, and coming back a few days before the wedding. Now I admit I was a bit gutted, but, I know that’s stupid, and that it would be unreasonable to be annoyed, so, I’ve been happy for them and really supportive.
We were going to go to Spain for my hen do, and also as a ‘last hurrah’ as one of the girl’s who’s moving abroad is relocating permanently to Australia. Well obv that changed. Which is fine; but I’ve basically been pushed into doing something I didn’t really want to do, because they made me feel guilty about having my hen do without them. Which is also fine; I guess it’s sweet that they care.
But here’s the kicker: they both keep going on about money, and how much it’s costing when it was THEIR idea, not mine. Also, my mum and I had to book it and pay for it; yes, I booked my own hen do. They also didn’t offer to chip in and pay for me; which would have cost them about $15 each. Oh, and one of them still hasn’t given my mum the money :-s
2) In the UK, it is traditional for the couple to pay for the bridesmaid’s dresses, so, we’re paying for their dresses at a cost of over $300 each. Now, we wanted them to feel comfortable, so, we asked them to decide on a length they were happy with (they went with floor-length), and asked them also to decide on a colour; essentially, all we asked was that the lengths, colour and fabric be the same, but we were happy for them to have different necklines, and for them to choose the length and colour between them. They choose beautiful green Dessy dresses; lovely.
Or not. We picked the dresses up over 2 months ago. They all need to be altered, and the shop needs 4 weeks for alterations. I have been trying to get them to try them on and come with me to get the alterations done for the last 6 weeks. They’ve finally agreed to come on the 25th Jan; so we have just enough time before they leave the country in March. But really, this is stress I don’t need (btw, one of them lives in the same street as me; the other lives an hour away by tube; so, not hours away. Oh, and I said I can go any day apart from Saturday afternoon and Monday evening; so, it’s not like I’ve give them 3 dates to choose from).
I just feel a bit bummed out; but I don’t know if I’m being stupid. I guess I just don’t see how hard it is to go to a dress fitting, and I wish I hadn’t been so flexible with my hen/bachelorette when all they’ve done is moan and bitch.
So, am I being a ‘zilla?!