- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
So my mother calls me at like 6:30 this morning (we’re in opposite time zones) and says (as far as I know–completely out of the blue) “You really need to call the county clerk’s office and see if someone will marry you.”
“Why?” Is all I’m able to stagger out because I was just asleep two minutes ago, and I’ve scratched my leg jumping over the baby gate to answer the phone.
“It’s just too much to ask of BIL , it’s too expensive, [it’s 75.00 and I offered to pay] and it’s just selfish of you to ask that.”
I don’t even know what I mumbled at her, since this totally took me by surprise–I thought this was done, and I crossed it off my list.
So, I see that there are one of two possibilities here:
(1) She has decided this on her own, my sister and my BIL don’t know anything about it, and things are in fact, fine.
(2) My sister has been complaining to her about it behind my back after BIL agreed, and my Mom is trying to mollify her by pointing me in a new direction.
So I did try to call my sister, but she’s not taking my calls, or answering texts either.
So, I ask you. Is this a selfish and unreasonable thing to ask of BIL? I didn’t think it was at all, but maybe I’ve lost perspective.
It’s a small wedding, we’re only inviting 40 people, and I’ve been contested on so many things…my mom didn’t like the baker I chose, or apparently BIL doing the ceremony, she doesn’t like the bamboo utensils I ordered, or the paper plates I DON’T want. She doesn’t think I should wear a dress. His mother doesn’t like the date, the location, or the fact that I spent any money on paper products at all when a phone works just as well.
And even though we want this, I’m so tired of everyone having an issue with everything…