- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
So my mother calls me at like 6:30 this morning (we’re in opposite time zones) and says (as far as I know–completely out of the blue) “You really need to call the county clerk’s office and see if someone will marry you.”
“Why?” Is all I’m able to stagger out because I was just asleep two minutes ago, and I’ve scratched my leg jumping over the baby gate to answer the phone.
“It’s just too much to ask of Brother-In-Law , it’s too expensive, [it’s 75.00 and I offered to pay] and it’s just selfish of you to ask that.”
I don’t even know what I mumbled at her, since this totally took me by surprise–I thought this was done, and I crossed it off my list.
So, I see that there are one of two possibilities here:
(1) She has decided this on her own, my sister and my Brother-In-Law don’t know anything about it, and things are in fact, fine.
(2) My sister has been complaining to her about it behind my back after Brother-In-Law agreed, and my Mom is trying to mollify her by pointing me in a new direction.
So I did try to call my sister, but she’s not taking my calls, or answering texts either.
So, I ask you. Is this a selfish and unreasonable thing to ask of BIL? I didn’t think it was at all, but maybe I’ve lost perspective.
It’s a small wedding, we’re only inviting 40 people, and I’ve been contested on so many things…my mom didn’t like the baker I chose, or apparently Brother-In-Law doing the ceremony, she doesn’t like the bamboo utensils I ordered, or the paper plates I DON’T want. She doesn’t think I should wear a dress. His mother doesn’t like the date, the location, or the fact that I spent any money on paper products at all when a phone works just as well.
And even though we want this, I’m so tired of everyone having an issue with everything…