(Closed) Am I Being Unreasonable – MOH baby shower

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

She sounds crazy, selfish and out of her bird. You are not being unreasonable at all – she is! 110 person baby shower?! Thats almost as many people as were at my wedding. I would honestly be pissed if I were yoU!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

um….that is nothing like the baby showers i have been to.  for my bridal showers, everything is being planning by the hostess.  everything.  the invites, the location, the food.  they have run some things by me to see if i like the ideas, and i always say yes, because who says no to someone throwing them a nice party??

i personally think this is way over the top. is this all in your budgets?  is it a monetary issue as well?

ps – i have never heard of favors at a baby shower!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

this is just bananas – some people are just so ungrateful ya know? i would never ever expect this from my freinds or even my family! its a tad ridiculous if you ask me and you have every right to be upset and need to vent. plus who tell you what gift to give them? i would almost not get anything monogramed in spite…and im not a very spiteful person but that just bugs me – be happy with whatever gift i give you, i dont care if its burp rags.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I definitely think it sounds over the top! If she is not the one paying for it, she should not expect such an extravagant shower. While of course she should have some say in how she would like her shower to be, I was always under the impression that the shower details were at the discretion of the hostess/hostesses.

I don’t know your friend, but it sounds a little selfish to accept a shower and then make a ton of demands on it. If I were in your position, I would definitely think she’s being unreasonable! Maybe you can gently let her know that you’re excited about her shower but you can’t commit to so much.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

OMG that’s so selfish and self absorbed. I could never fathom asking my friends to spend that much $$. how inconsiderate. As your Maid/Matron of Honor she knows your personal circumstances and knows that you are planning a wedding. She’s planning a damn reception and wants you all to foot the bill…heck not that’s not fair. She’s acting like a momzilla 🙂  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I have been to many of a baby shower in my more than half century on the planet and I have NEVER been to a baby shower like that. It’s a baby shower for heaven’s sake. I would tell her to get a grip on reality. Unless things have changed radically since I hosted a baby shower – the hosts determine what kind of celebration it will be – not the mother-to-be!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@emersynsmommy35: Lol I like your form of revenge! PS – your daughter (Im assuming thats your daughter in your avatar) is adorable!!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@emersynsmommy35: Haha! I would get a huge sign to put up with “Baby (NAME)” and be all like “Oopsy, is that not okay?”

Seriously tho, I remember you talking about her before. She sounds like crazy-pants and that shower is totatlly out of control. Unfortunately it seems like your past the point of no return since you said okay to her ridiculous request for invtations. I’d say no to the cookies.

Sorry but if I’m “hosting” something it’s going to be my call on food/invites/decor (obviously if the Mommy-to-be had a resonable request it should followed). I’d just tell the other hostesses that you’re willing to put in $X for cookies – they can either make up the difference themselves or find something that works for the budget. I hate it when other people make plans and just expect others to foot the bill.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

As far as I am concerned, throwing a baby shower IS the gift. If someone threw me a shower I wouldn’t expect them to buy me something because of the cost involved. She’s being a lot over the top here.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow, this is just too much. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with a friend who is beyond selfish.

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