(Closed) Am I being unreasonable? (rant)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Are you being serious? He’s not getting married anywhere near when you are, you’re early 2017 and he’s late 2017. And even if he was near you, who cares!? I’m hoping you’re not serious. 

ETA: Sorry, forgot to answer the question… YES you are being unreasonable. 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 5 months ago by flossy.lou.
Post # 3
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Newbee

lol.  i agree with Flossy Lou.  You’re getting married early 2017 and he is November, that’s very late 2017.  Honestly, the way their relationship sounds, maybe they won’t even GET married – a lot can change between now and 2017, and he’s only 19, i wouldn’t worry about it.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 5 months ago by dapper324.
Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I can kind of understand where you may be coming from.

i had an almost similar situation, my fiances brother got engaged to a girl who he had known less than a year just before we did. It was a big shock to the family who weren’t a particularly big fan of this girl to say the least.

to me i was jealous in a way because I’d been with my fiancé for so long, I love His family so much and to see what I considered a bit of a jole engagement being shoved onto everybody was tiring and irritating.

 

anyway, they broke up less than 6 months later, and I’m still getting married haha.

 

realistically though, he may be irresponsible but 2017 is quite a way away he may not even be with her anymore but it sounds a while off that they will give it a go so I don’t think it’s too bad! 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 5 months ago by Fawun92.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

same year? The nerrrrrrrve!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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JessRae:  I’d love to have your back but based strictly on the info given, I’d say you are being unreasonable to the max. I mean, what if your cousin said, “well they’ve been dating five whole years- but I’m not judging their decisions, I’m just ticked that they want to get married on the same 365 day span as I do. What makes 2017 so special for them? They obviously aren’t right for each other or they’d have already been married!”

See we how bad it sounds from the other side? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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JessRae:  The same YEAR?! The AUDACITY! The unprecedented GAUL.

/sarcasm

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Yes. You’re being very unreasonable.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

They are moving in together which is normal, and sometimes people need a bit of reassurance that the relationship is going to move forward and not just plateu for years and years with it not going anywhere.  They might have only discussed marriage as what they would like in their future, nothing has been set obviously as they aren’t engaged yet.  I would just be a graceful bride-to-be and plan your wedding and not worry.  It is probably a little bit of bridal jealousy which I admit I get often hahaha. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee

I’d go about my buisness and worry about my OWN wedding plans. I think one wedding is stressful enough, so I have to say yes, you’re being unreasonable. :/ sorry 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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JessRae:  I’m in a similar boat.  I see girls I know getting married after dating for a year and I am sitting here thinking ‘that could be us, but I need this degree’ haha.  It’s hard being patient, but you just need to focus on your relationship with your Fiance and appreciate the wonderful partner you have and enjoy your time together.  

Also our family shrugged off our engagement too, they aren’t all too interested in hearing about the details or anything but thats okay.  Thats what girlfriends and your Fiance are for 🙂 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

You sound so immature! I mean lets all just put our future on hold because you got engaged, how long would be good enough? 1 month? 2? how about a year?

As for their wedding is close to yours really?   

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