(Closed) Am I being unreasonable to want the groomsmen to match?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Should I let this slide?
    Yes - who cares about the suit colours. : (2 votes)
    3 %
    No - everything has already been arranged. Tell him to stop! : (43 votes)
    70 %
    Come up with a compromise. Maybe the groom in grey and groomsmen in black? : (16 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    No you’re not being unreasonable. 

    Post # 4
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    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    When you were planning and decided that the GMs would wear grey, did you ask your Fiance his opinion? Or did you just decide that they would all wear grey? Personally, I think the groom should have some say in what his GMs are wearing.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    If his groomsman doesn’t want to buy a gray suit, why doesn’t he rent a gray one?

    Post # 7
    Member
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @bretonvirgniia:  Then your not being unreasonable at all. Remind him that he decided on grey and thats what all the GMs need to wear. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Hmm this is hard for me I’m so laissez-faire about this.

    I don’t care as long as they have a suit I’m sweating the bow ties as they coordinate with the ladies outfits.

     

    But if this is thematic to your event I think you have every right to care.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    If that’s how you guys planned it (and agreed), Fiance needs to stick with it and be firm with his GMs.

    Post # 10
    Member
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No you are not being unreasonable. In fact, you are way more calm about this than I would have been! Your groomsmen should all were the same suit.

    Post # 11
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    3194 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @bretonvirgniia:  not at all. tell your Fiance if he doesn’t like what you want then he should just plan the whole wedding. 😉 that’ll set him straight.

    Post # 13
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Our groomsmen are wearing gray suits, and partner actually sent out an email letting them know what range of gray was acceptable, and what was too light or too dark. He’s much more finnicky than me.

     

    I’d say you’re definitely allowed to care.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My Fiance tried to do this! He has a nice gray suit he wants to wear, but it will be very hard to find grey suits for the groomsmen to rent that look good with his grey suit. So he’s like oh they can wear black. Oh no they cannot! I’ve been planning this for a year, he doesn’t get to ruin my color scheme!! In our case, my Fiance is not very involved in planning so I basically said if you don’t help, you don’t get to make decisions… (in a much nicer way)

    Post # 16
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    2691 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I don’t understand where this logic is coming from since traditionally all the groomsman match!

    You are allowed to care and you should remind your Fiance that he chose grey, everything is coordinated in grey, and you want them all to wear grey.

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