- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I am tentatively getting married in July 2014. I have two sisters, one M and one V. I am very close with M and she will be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I am not close with V, she’s a 1/2 sister and I barely know her- I never speak to her directly, always through my mom or our dad. I asked my mom to talk to V about attending a wedding outside of NYC (where I am from and all my family is), she said she didn’t know because of financial reasons, she has 3 daughters and her husband works a lot! I totally understand.
So out of all this, my oldest niece- currently age 14 asks my other sister M- when is maplemag getting married? M responds, not sure niece, but probably in 2014. I have asked my family to keep the location a secret from the girls because I don’t want to put my sister V in an awkward position if she can’t afford to travel to Disneyland for our wedding. How much would it suck to be a 16, 10, 5 yr old and be told, no we can’t go to your aunt’s wedding, which happens to be at Disneyland. Plus we haven’t even signed a contract yet (can’t until 18 mo out) so there is a possibility that the wedding might not even take place at Disneyland.
But I digress, apparently, my wonderful niece (not sarcasm) said to M, well, I need to know when maplemag is getting married and if I’m going to be a bridesmaid. My heart sank out of sadness when M told me this. I barely have room for my friends in my wedding party (I’m sure that post is to follow soon), and because of this am giving the “honored guest” title to some of my friends and FH’s friends who can’t be in the bridal party.
How should I deal with this? Especially since V and fam might not even be able to make the wedding! I would hate to tell niece “I will give you a special job at the wedding” if it turns out they can’t make it. 🙁