(Closed) Am I Crazy?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

No, this is definitely not normal. I would be pissed if my Boyfriend or Best Friend did that! I have guy friends and I would never “jokingly” send them a picture of my underwear, that is crossing the line. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sj8082:  Not normal.  At all.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sounds like they need to set up boundaries.  I don’t think its appropriate for her to stroke his ego, or for him to like it so much.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can definitely feel slighted that he brings her chocolates instead of you.  However, I would bring chocolates to a guy friend if I know he likes them. 

I am more bothered that she sent pictures of her panties.  I hope she wasn’t taking pictures of them on her!  And, I hope they were like funny, gag panties and not sexy lingerie.  It is inappropriate.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

It would bother me if he huffs and puffs to do it for you but doesn’t think twice for her I would be SUPER pissed and would be like we need to talk and if he wants to keep being friends with her he needs to set boundaries if not then I would consider leaving. When it comes to my hubby I am #1 and thats how it should be.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@sj8082:  I would, yeah. When someone does little things like that for me, that says “flirting” to me. And I would never ask for it, that would be too weird and awkward. Besides, a man bringing a woman chocolates has romantic connotations to it. It’s akin to flirting, imho. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

You need to get yourself a male friend that you can buy chocolates for. Maybe sent some fun texts Embarassed maybe you could send each other flowers?

 

If someone I was seeing thought this was funny or approriate I would kick them to the curb. This is just dumb stuff to be doing.

Post # 13
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

sending a picture of the underwear is totally inappropriate.She would be an ex-friend if he  was my fiancé. His loyalties should lie with you. If you are uncomfortable with their relationship, he needs to end it.The chocolates aren’t a huge deal to me as long as he isnt complaining about buying them for you. He should not treat any woman better than he treats you.

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

No part of this is appropriate.  He hides their relationship from you.  She sends him pictures of herself, and of her underwear.  He brings her gifts without complaint, but doesn’t bring you any.  My ONLY comment to him would be that this shit stops immediately, or he can take his chocolates and go.

Post # 15
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601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@sj8082:  I would feel the same way. Your his Fiance he should want to do things for you. My hubby does things for me all the time and I do the same for him and enjoy it because I love him and want him to know it. A talk is defintely in order.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sj8082:  I would not ask a guy friend in a relationship to bring me chocolates. And yes, I think it would be weird if a guy friend randomly bought chocolates to give to me. I’m glad he told her that the pantie picture was inappropriate but I think you need to ask for a few more boundaries in your relationship. He should not continue behaving in a way that makes you uncomfortable.

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