Post # 1
I apologize if this is all over, I’m so overwhelmed at the moment!
I thought that I was 7 weeks pregnant based on last period and ovulation which was during our honeymoon. We weren’t trying, but weren’t using protection and well aware that it could lead to pregnancy. We aren’t really 100% ready but figured it wouldn’t happen immediately.
The last three weeks my boobs have been super tender, along with mood swings, cramping, nausea when smelling certain things, increased headaches, etc. (obviously a missed period as well.)
We just moved and things are a bit hectic so we haven’t had time to get a pg test, we weren’t in any huge rush, I started eating better, avoiding caffine, etc. just in case I was pg.
Last night I had finally come to terms with the fact that I was most likely pg and really started to get very excited, I had also realized that I had come to love the baby already. I had planned on getting a test today but I woke up with my period. Not spotting, but full blown period.
I’m at a loss, I am beyond sad and honestly I feel like I need time to greive the loss of a child that wasn’t ever there? DH and I were the only ones who “knew” and I know that telling him that I imagined a pregnancy and loved a child that wasn’t there would be strange and honestly I have no idea what he would even say to that. Would he even understand?
I’m not sure what I’m looking for, a place to vent…? Has this happened to anyone else? I do still plan to test just in case but jeez, I feel like I’ve gone off the deep end here. My periods are usually really regular, it’s all just very strange to me.
Post # 3
Take a pregnancy test today anyway. I think it’s very possible that you were not pregnant at all; weddings are a stressful time & delayed ovulation could have caused your late period. You may be grieving a loss that never happened.
Post # 4
@MrsRugbee: I’m okay with imagining the pg, but I’m shocked at how I feel, if the baby was never there then how can I be grieving it?
rawr! I’m so mixed up!
Post # 5
It happened to me under copper IUD. Exactly the same. I had unusual HYPER smell sense, which made me nauseous quite often. My breasts were so swollen and sore, for 3 weeks, than it actually became impossible for me to sleep on my stomach as usual, and it was so painful that it made me cry. I have never experienced any PMS that looked like that, ever (and I know my cycle by heart, I’m very regular and have almost never any symptoms, except maybe some acne the week before I get my period but that’s it). I finally had huge cramps and started bleeding weirdly (very dark, very few but with discharges, etc.) 3 days before my actual period (which has never happened either), then after that I had my regular bleeding, bright red. I took a pregnancy test 2 weeks later because I really didn’t know if I was pregnant or not, and it was negative.
I will never have a clear answer for this, I won’t ever know for sure what happened ; however, I’ve talked to a few nurses after it happened to me, and I’m convinced that I was *pregnant* by the time I had these weird symptoms, but I probably had a very early miscarriage, the kind you would not really notice it unless, like me, you never ever PMS and then suddenly you have these huge symptoms and bleeding. Apparently it happens quite often that a fertilized egg gets (naturally) rejected and it gets out pretty much at the same time as the regular period, or about, so you might not have been aware you were pregnant for a few weeks.
Post # 6
you convinced yourself you were pregnant. you were keeping track of how far you thought you were.. its understandable that you would need to greive that.. though I would never personally wait so long to test and imagine myself pregnant to that extent, but you did. and so you really think there was a baby there.
Post # 7
@miss.wiggums: I’d still take a test. Just because you’re bleeding doesn’t mean you aren’t pregnant. Good luck and hang in there!
Post # 8
@miss.wiggums: I’ve never heard of this before but it sounds like you may have possibly had a very early miscarriage? I can’t offer any type of explanation or advice but I can totally see why you feel the way you do (( hugs )). I agree with PP take a HPT just in case.
Post # 9
@miss.wiggums: It’s not strange to grieve the loss of a pregnancy, even if it turns out you weren’t actually pregnant. Whether you were actually pregnant or not, you’d imagined a life that would include a baby in it. And whether you actually were pregnant or not, you are definitely not pregnant now, which means you know that your immediate future does NOT include a baby in it. What is wrong with grieving the fact that you aren’t going to have a baby in 9 months? It sounds very normal to me.
I would suggest, though, that you go talk to your doctor and let him or her know you suspect you were pregnant and may have miscarried. I’ve heard that if part of the fetus is left inside, it can cause complications later. It would be best for a doctor to check you out.
Many hugs to you.
Post # 10
its hard to know whether the baby was there or not. its possible you were just very late, or equally it could be an early miscarriage.
im sorry you feel sad. if you want to know either way, a pregnancy test i believe should still detect residual HCG levels in your system. If it was a miscarriage, at this point its unlikely you need to take any action (medically speaking) but might be worth checking with a dr just in case? infrequently/rarely women have a normal period while still pregnant. So a positive result could mean pregnant OR miscarriage
you were starting to get excited so its normal that youre starting to feel sad about not having a baby. there are lots of support threads on here you might want to look into
Post # 11
@NauticalDisaster: Thank you guys for sharing and comforting me. I just recently came back from getting a HPT so I will test either later tonight or tomorrow morning.