Post # 1
I’ve been trying to get this off my mind all day..with obviously no luck. I have been with my fiance for more than 3 yrs. his brother just recently broke up with his long term gf and quickly found a replacement. Now after less than 2 months of dating are engaged! While I dont know the whole story, no one does cause he is not returning any phone calls from the family. (cant imagine why) but i cant help to feel like he is just trying to take the attention from me and my fiance, and put it on himself. he is the kind of person who is not happy unless he is center of attention, or stirring up some kind of trouble. I dont know if im just over reacting or im justified in feeling like I do. I talked breifly about how I feel with my fiance, and he completely agrees with me. The second thought I am having is that maybe the quick engagement could be cause she is pregnant. and with that thought I guess I get a little jealous. I desperately want to have kids. Both me and my fiance have decided that given our situation it is best that we wait 3-4 yrs. I need to finish school and we both need to establish careers and gain financial stability. I know waiting is the best decision for us and more importantly our future children. But the thought that his brother is expecting a baby drives me crazy, and makes the situation that much harder. I dont know.. i guess I just need to wait and hear the whole story. it just annoys me.
Post # 3
Dont worry. im sure you will still have plenty of attention. just let the SHOCK pass by.
Post # 4
I can see why you would be annoyed, but as my mom says – you are borrowing trouble. Wait until you hear the whole story before you get upset. And remember that yes, you are getting married and it’s the biggest, most important thing to you – BUT everyone else is going to keep living their lives and that means friends and family will get engaged, have babies, get amazing new jobs, move across the country, buy houses, etc (all of this has happened to us in the 9 months we’ve been planning). All you can do is keep your focus on you and your wedding and be as happy for others as you want them to be for you.
Post # 5
I have been in a similar situation it never made me jealous just made me question how true their love was for each other now I see they always fight and i think they just got married for the wrong reasons (she got knocked up) and you just have to remember you are doing it for the right reasons because you love each other and want to spend your lives together : )
Post # 6
thanks for your replies. your all right that I just need to focus on my relationship and the wedding planning and not worry about anyone else. while thats easier said then done, i am def going to try. while i was annoyed at first because I thought of how this was going to affect me, i now find myself worried and concerned for him. my fiance refuses to call him, because he said in a situation like this, if he was in love and getting married that he should want to communicate, and share that with him and the rest of the family. i have to say I agree with him. his mom talked to him though, and said that his new fiance is not pregnant, and that she makes him happy so thats the reason why they got engaged. I dont get it I dont have to. what did get under my skin is that he compared his relationship to mine. He added that he doesnt understand why him getting engaged is a big deal because we are. We were together 2 yrs before getting engaged, they have been together 2 months. big difference. I just know what it takes to be in a loving working relationship, and he is going about it the wrong way. I wish only the best for him, i want him to find happiness. but I cant help but to feel like no good can come from this. oh well. im letting go of it. I have way better things to think about. like going for a cake tasting on friday. oh how I love cake. im a firm believer in, that cake can make any day better. 🙂