(Closed) Am I crazy? Advice needed…(pics)

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think offering to buy her a new dress or getting her to accessorize it is a good idea, but I think it is certainly a bit strange of your Future Mother-In-Law to buy the SAME dress as your mother.

Maybe you can get your Fiance to talk to his mom about how the dress similarity makes your mother feel? Perhaps he could change her mind.

Post # 4
2107 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow.  They are pretty much the same dress.  I can’t believe your Future Mother-In-Law did that!  I would suggest that you have Fiance step in and talk to his mom.  Then it’s not like you’re the only one with the issue. 

Post # 5
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Your not crazy they are almost identical esp when your fmil’s is in navy blue. I would ask your fi to have a very strong word with his mother.

Post # 6
1614 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Thats not cool…She should pick a different dress…

Post # 7
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Not crazy or unreasonable, that is the same dress. That’s not fair of your Future Mother-In-Law to do that. I think having your Fiance talk to her is a great idea. Why would she want to wear the same dress as your Mom anyways… most ppl fear wearing the same dress. 🙁

Post # 8
875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow, your Future Mother-In-Law is rudde to even buy a dress that looks similar, let alone identical. I know its not your mom’s wedding or anything, but you sent her a picture clearly telling her not to buy a dress that is similar. She should have been respectful of that. You need to have your Fiance talk with her (there’s nothing that breaks a mother down that her son upset with her lol) so that she could maybe compromise. Good luck!

Post # 9
781 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

have you asked WHY your Future Mother-In-Law bought that dress?  Maybe this dress style fit her best too? It kinda sucks that they’re so similar…but perhaps you can buy her some sort of accessories to differentiate it.

Post # 10
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

you are not crazy. your Future Mother-In-Law picked the exact dress. She needs to get a different dress…

Post # 11
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I guess I’m the only one who wouldn’t care, but your moms are pretty much never going to be standing next to eachother at the wedding and as a guest I would never even notice.

Post # 12
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

holy crap that’s the same dress! sheesh! your mom has a right to be peeved because she sent the picture to prevent this very scenario from happening! 🙁 i think the easiest thing would be a new jacket, but i agree with a pp that said to get your Fiance to talk to her… maybe there’s a reason? if all else fails and she won’t budge, maybe you and your mom could go out re-shopping together? use it as an excuse for more mom/daughter bonding time? 

Post # 13
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I second the suggestions of having your Fiance talk to his mom. You are not crazy! Haha, when I first started reading your post I skimmed through and thought your complaint was that the colors were too similar. I was about to say that isn’t a big deal…till I saw the pictures! They are definitely very, very similar. I think if your Future Mother-In-Law wore a different jacket with the dress, that would help. But, why did she do it? She knew what your mom’s dress looked like, and still picked one very similar. It might have been a mistake. If it was done on purpose, though, your Fiance might need to have a serious talk with her.

Is there any way either of them can return the dress, or at least exchange it for another? If Future Mother-In-Law won’t budget, I like anotheroneofmany’s suggestion to go shopping again with mom.

Post # 14
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

oh they are more than similar!!!  I think you need to get Fiance in on this and get your Future Mother-In-Law to change her dress.. she bought hers second.. if your mum had of bought hers second you would naturally make her change it.. not the other way around.. i dont htink your mum should have to worry about this.. it isnt her mistake!!! and you are not being bridezilla at all!! this is horrible!! how could she do this knowing already that your mum has bought this dress!!!

Post # 15
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I can see why your Mom would feel upset, but in the scheme of things it is not a big deal. Choose your battles. Is this really one that needs to be fought?


Post # 16
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow… I’m glad I don’t have this problem.  Your mom is totally justified in being upset.  Why would your Future Mother-In-Law do that?  Yikes!

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