Post # 1
I have found THE dress (Sottero & Midgley – Sloan). My issue though is that my wedding isn’t until Oct 2014. I knwo its a long ways away but ever since I saw a picture of this dress I knew it was the one. The issue I have is that here in Atlantic Canada there are only 2 vendors which carry the dress (sameple size 2, sample size 10). I went to a shop and held it up to me – the top was wrapped around be and attached to the robe I was wearing. I loved it (I cried!). I’ve been picturing myself in it and can’t imagine wearing anything else.
I know there are some Bees out there who’ve bought their dress over 2 years out from their wedding – any regrets? Anyone else buy a dress without being able to try on the sample?
I should also mention that Maggie is doing a dress overhaul and is discontinuing dresses ASAP and I am terrified to lose out on it…
Post # 3
Why can’t you try on the sample? I would try to find out what it actually looks like on you before you commit. You have a million years before you get married…are you planning to travel at all in that time? Could you go down to NYC or Boston, where they might have it in another size?
Post # 4
@peachacid: The samples are too small 🙁 I can try on sample 12s but a 10 or 2 is not going to work. I could travel but its doubtful and with the discontinuing thats going on, if I wait it may no longer be available.
Post # 5
I bought 2 without trying them on 1 I LOVE the other one I am trying to sell… Have you tried on any similar gowns (atleast the same shape?)
Post # 6
@MsPanda: I have tried on similiar gowns, one with the same style bottom (fit’n’flare) and same material – its enough for me but my mom is disappointed (as am I!) and wants me to wait to try it on, if I can lose weight (which is the plan).
Post # 7
Buying without trying it on is sooo scary, but I have heard from quite a few people on these boards who did and ended up so happy with their decision. I think you need to decide how much you’re willing to risk it, just in case it comes in and you hate how it looks on you. Could you afford to buy a new dress at that point? If not, it’s something you have to be willing to deal with just in case. But again, many people have had success! It’s just up to you 🙂
Post # 8
I was engaged in October 2010. I bought my dress around that time. I live in Oklahoma, so there aren’t many stores that carry higher end dresses–most everyone I know just goes to David’s. The boutiques that are here didn’t carry my dress (Justin Alexander 9552). I knew I looked good in ball gowns, so I decided to take the chance when I found it on a mail-order site (Jay’s). It was a big risk, but since I knew the silhouette would look good on me and I’d have time to lose weight/get alterations, I assumed it would be fine.
The dress arrived as expected, and didn’t zip. This was ok, as I still had over a year to make it work, and was on a diet.
Fast forward a few months, and Fiance and I have broken up. It was mutual, and for the best, but now I have a $2500 dress sitting in the top of the closet at my mother’s house.
But this does not bother me. The dress was one of the most beautiful I’d ever seen. I’ve decided that since I never wore it, and never showed it to ex-FI, I’d go ahead and wear it when I do get married, rather than selling it and getting something else. Sometimes when I get bored I tempt fate and look at the new dresses. I have seen a few I’d rather have than the one I bought, but every one of them is above my original budget by at least $5k. So basically…no, you’re not crazy. Even though I had pretty much a worst-case scenario (and none of this is going to happen to you!) I don’t have any regrets about buying my dress, and the passage of time hasn’t made me love it any less. I bought a style that looked good on my body, from a reputable designer and retailer. As long as you have a good alterations team, you can fix just about anything unless it just ends up being egregiously too small or short.
Post # 9
I am a bride who ordered her dress without trying it on (or any style like it actually! lol). I LOVE my dress. 🙂 However, I’d be more concerned with the fact your wedding isn’t until later in 2014, 2+ years. If you do buy that particular dress, I would not look at any others for the fear of dress regret over plans/ideas/styles changing within the next 2 years. If you think that’s possible, then go for it girl!! 🙂 Good luck!!
Post # 10
No you’re not crazy. If it’s the vision you have of yourself then that’s it. I stalked my dress online so much that when I finally went to try dresses on, I was sold. Nothing else compared. You know yourself. Don’t doubt it.
Post # 11
I bought mine without trying it on, but I tried similar dresses by the same designer first. I actually got it in my size (preowned and altered to the seller’s measurements which are the same as mine) and it fits great. Just be really honest with yourself about what size you order. Don’t purchase the size you think you will be, order for the size you are now. And make sure you really love the dress. I waited 6 months between seeing the dress for the first time and buying it because I wanted to know I wouldn’t find something better after I bought it.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’m more concerned about how far away your wedding is than the not-trying-it-on thing. You could find something you like even more in the next year and a half, and honestly, that dress will probably still be available unless it’s a really old style.