(Closed) Am I crazy for being upset?!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

That’s definately rude! I guess they’d rather sell nothing than sell you a $500 ring Undecided

Post # 4
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

NO! Sales people should listen to the customer, even if (and especially if) they work on commission). When you said up front you had a max budget, she should respect that, not argue with you! And especially not trick you into trying something on you couldn’t afford! I hate pushy sales people like that! & purposefully will wait until someone else is there to buy from (if I really want something there).

Actually, part of the reason I was able to find my ring was because the sales lady was so nice & I made sure Fiance bought it from her when he bought it. (He promises that he did)

Post # 5
10 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

Very rude indeed. Be comfortable with your decisions because they sound sensible, and more importantly, they mean a lot to you!

Sometimes it’s worthwhile to write to the management in these situations. If it put you off so much that you probably wouldn’t go into the store again, they would probably want to know about it. Retailers need constructive critisism all the time…  Just a thought. 

Post # 6
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

So rude!! I would not give them my business, i would feel insulted.

Post # 7
8438 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It is very rude but she is probably just doing her job. Even if you complained about her to management I would bet they wouldn;t say boo to her except maybe to say try to judge better. Most people would probably fall for that sales pitch- especially males and especially if she mentioned being cheap!

I kind of related it to new home (display home) shopping. they never build display homes/suites with the basics- they build the upgraded ones so that you will spend the extra money!

And definately don;t let it sway your decision unless you want to change. We spent under $500 fro an e-ring and avoided naturally sourced diamonds for similar concerns (conflict and better things to spend money on). The only thing that matter is that you and your Fiance are happy with your choice and not what society or some snotty sales person thinks!

Post # 8
4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

That wasnt very nice of her but dont let it/her ruin your experience. Look again at another store and see what you like. There are some very nice rings on ESTY that are very low key and very well priced. Maybe check them out 🙂

Post # 10
6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@GelaMac:  agreed.  salespeople can be rude – she seemed rude and judgmental and probably was that way bc she assumed she had nothing in the store to show you that you would buy.  i would just look elsewhere, don’t let people ruin your time!

Post # 11
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Agreed! Try etsy! Or a place that is NOT based on commission (like Shane Co), if you want to try some on!

Post # 12
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I guess it was rude, but what were you hoping to see? Do retail stores stock (in-store) wedding bands with white sapphires or any non-diamond stone? If you wanted to see something besides a plain gold band, then you’re often just talking about some sort of diamond band.  

Post # 13
2411 posts
Buzzing bee

No you’re not crazy for being upset. She was obnoxious. Some jewelry store sales people are so professional and attuned to what you are asking for. Others are just ballsy and pushy.

Something similar happened to me when I took the 1/2 ct. solitaire family ring my Fiance proposed with to a nice jewelry store here. It’s in a very high end shopping area. I wanted to see some examples of settings that might go with my/our diamond.

The sales guy was such a snob and the very first thing he said to me was, “That’s much smaller than the diamonds we usually see. I’ve been buying and selling center stones in the $10,000 range to be honest.”

That comment just stopped me in my tracks and took the wind out of my sails. I walked into that store feeling happy, hopeful and excited to see settings for my *engagement ring,* the most important and sentimental piece of jewelry I will ever have. And he was so cruel with that comment. It made me feel self-conscious, as if I should be ashamed my Fiance gave me a half carat to start with. I browsed for a few minutes and then left. I still can’t drive past that store without remembering that awful thing he said.

Moral of the story — go somewhere else where they will LISTEN to you and treat you with dignity and respect.

Post # 14
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

How unbelievably rude! This reminded me of when I called up to check my engagement ring would be covered on the household contents insurance. The guy said something about: “If you’re a lucky girl and he’s spent more than X…”

So rude. Not everyone measures the value of things by how much they cost. I hope you have better luck elsewhere.

Post # 15
4478 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

No, you’re not crazy about being upset.  I don’t get these salespeople.  You say $500, they should show you stuff in the price range you want.  End of story.

Post # 16
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You have every right to be upset.  But don’t let it get you down, find someone who does want your $500 and will treat you with some respect.

I just don’t understand some jewelers.  We got outrageous quotes and treated quite rudely when we were looking for a setting for my diamond.  It should be easy to figure that here is a young couple, just starting our lives together.  No matter how much I have to spend NOW on a ring, it’s just the beginning.  We still had to buy a wedding band.  Then he’ll come get me something for our anniversaries.  And when we have a baby.  And for my birthday (I like shiny things, not going to lie).  But it seems like and engagement ring would be the start of a good relationship with a client if you treat them right.  He’d go right back for whatever he wanted. 

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