(Closed) Am I crazy for thinking I can make my own wedding cake?

posted 5 years ago in Food
Post # 3
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You said essentially what I was going to say. I planned to make my own cupcakes too (I make rockin’ cupcakes!) but I ultimately decided that the potential stress wasn’t worth it. You can buy cupcakes dirt cheap nowadays and I think the cost is worth having one less thing to worry about. I’m sure your to do list is a mile long already and it wouldn’t really save you THAT much money if you factor in your time (time is money!).

Post # 4
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@ChelseaBells:  Wow that is super ambitious!  My friend asked me to make her wedding cake and cupcakes as I bake recreationally…and I said NO b/c I am in the bridal party and there will be NO time for that leading up to the wedding (agree to you on the freezing then decorating part…which is the most time consuming)… I think that it’s just an added stress that you don’t need to be worrying about leading up to your wedding!

Post # 5
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you can afford to buy them, I don’t think it’s worth the stress.  The week leading up to the wedding is crazy trying to pay everyone, make seating charts, etc etc. 

Post # 6
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I caved and decided to buy.  I figure I will be under enough stress and won’t actually want to spend hours in the kitchen baking and decorating in the weeks leading up to the wedding.

Even if you are able to bake them ahead of time, you have to wait until the day before to decorate so the icing will stay fresh.  Besides, do you have that much freezer space?

If you’re trying to save money, check out your local stores to see how much they charge for standard cupcakes and sheetcakes.  That way you could make the cake you and your husband plan to cut for pictures but serve the guests with the cupcakes or sheetcakes.

Post # 7
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

As someone who just got married two weeks ago and was the most organized bride, EVER- you will not want to be baking the days leading up to your wedding. I don’t know what kind of wedding you’re having but even after being on top of things and having everything planned and done, I still had a million things to do and places to be, etc. Buy them or have someone you know make them.

Post # 8
1032 posts
Bumble bee

@ChelseaBells:  I am in the same exact boat! I make birthday cakes for all of my friends and family all the time, so I feel like making cupcakes wont be a big deal. Plus my guest list is only about 40 people. I figure if I start at 6am the DAY BEFORE, I can have them all baked and frosted by 6pm, and just store them in a box in the refrigerator, and have the rest of the night to relax before my wedding the next day. 

I don’t think the actual BAKING part of the cake/cupcakes is stressful, I think it’s the day-of, transporting (or trusting someone to carefully transport your baked goods) is the stressful part. Whereas if you just buy them, you have less attachment to them. 

But then again… depending on your budget, and your guest list size, it might actually be cheaper to make them yourself, and you’ll end up with a higher quality product. Whereas if you get the cheapest cupcakes you can from the grocery store, they’re going to taste pretty gross compared to what you could have baked up. 

See.. I still haven’t decided. I keep flip-flopping. lol

Post # 10
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

That is one DIY project that I am definitely not going to attempt, for all the reasons that have been stated. I know I could do a great job, but I really don’t want to have to deal with all that right before the wedding! I’m doing some of the flowers, and other stuff that will require last minute attention, and I want to try to keep those last few days as low-stress as possible.

I have a good friend who has some training in cake decorating and has worked in a bakery. She might make the cake for me. I know she would do a great job, especially since I don’t want anything fancy. Only 50 guests, and I want super rustic looking buttercream and fresh flowers.

Post # 11
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Could you… YES

Would you want to… Hmmm, that ONLY you can decide.

There is a BIG commitment of TIME if you do them on your own… and essentially TIME = MONEY when you think about what your time is worth… especially PRECIOUS TIME that will be limited in the Days IMMEDIATELY BEFORE the Wedding.  And that is the timeframe in which you will need to at least ice the Cupcakes / Cake.

I knew that for our Back Home Reception for Mr TTR and I, that I wanted a Traditional Wedding Cake…

BUT I also knew I didn’t want to spend OODLES of money on it

In the end we went with a very simple / basic Wedding Cake.  White Cake & Ivory Buttercream Icing… no fancy decorating… just our Themed Cake Topper to round it out.

The cake a 3-Tier make up of 3 Rounds… 12-9-6 that would have fed 100 (small servings) or 50 (large servings) including the top layer… if we chose to keep the top layer then it worked out to (86 small servings OR 43 large servings).

Beautiful cake, and cost us $ 225 all in (we did our own pick up… which also saved on the Delivery Charge).  So aprox $ 2.25 per person.

We thought it was definitely worth it, the cake was beautiful, very tasty, and good value for a REAL 3-Tier Professional Bakery Wedding Cake.  When I think of the time, effort and stress that would have been involved to make our own or cupcakes (I definitely had the knowledge to do so myself)… in the week before, and then decorating them either in the WEE HOURS the night before, or the morning of… Ugggh, I have NO REGRETS.  One less thing to stress about IMO !!

Well worth the cost !!

I had enough on my plate… I used the precious hours as it was on last minute stuff… I would not have wanted to have this as a NAGGING ISSUE still on my TO DO LIST

Hope this helps,


Post # 12
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@ChelseaBells:  Have you tried grocery store bakeries? They are often pretty delicious and more affordable than private bakeries.

I highly recommend to bite the bullet and have them made. Remembering back to the week before my wedding there was no way in hell I would have had time to bake cupcakes for my entire guest list. Not a chance in hell. Freezing cupcakes will make them dry, not moist and delicious, so the pay off won’t be ideal.


Post # 13
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The plan at present is to DIY my cake, as well

Post # 14
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I am one of those brides that did the cupcakes, with my 2 daughters, and it’s one thing about my wedding that I would change….my friend made the top layer, which was great, (should have had her make the cupcakes as well).  It tasted good, and everything was there, but the stress level of spending that much time on one little thing, so close to the day is extreme.  So really weigh your options

Post # 15
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m making my own cake and cupcakes. I love my cupcake design and didn’t find any other baker who even came close to what I wanted. I am making 150 cupcakes and a cake for Fiance and I to cut. 

I am not worried at all about having too much to do and cake decorating relaxes me. 

Post # 16
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ChelseaBells:  You answered your own question. If I were you, I’d get someone else to do it. You can bake anytime. Stressing yourself out by having to bake/decorate hundreds of cupcakes or the fanciest cake of your life is probably not what you want to be doing the day before your wedding. If your wedding is like most other weddings, you’ll have plenty of other things to do/fix/attend to in the days leading up to it!

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