Post # 1
I was a previous avid Bee prior to my marriage almost 1 year ago. Unfortunately, things with my husband & I did not work out & we seperated almost 6 months ago. (A totally different long story) For background info – I left my husband. He didn’t do anything in particular, but I wasn’t happy & he had changed his mind about having kids.
I hadn’t been looking for another relationship as the seperation was pretty new but 2 months ago I was on a personal vacation with some girlfriends when I briefly met a guy. My g/f’s & I had entered a bar & he was one of the first guys I noticed. For some reason I couldn’t seem to keep my eyes off of him. After a few beverages I finally got the nerve to talk to him, we made small talk for about 10-15 minutes, exchanged numbers & than my g/f’s & I left to carry on to another bar.
We texted that night & he wanted to meet up with me to hang out, but unfortunately we never did meet up. I left the next day & for almost 2 months him & I have been texting back & forth.
He told me early on in communication that he saw me walk into the bar & felt like he had to meet me. He was intrigued by me & couldn’t keep his eyes off of me either. (Told me this before I told him I felt the same) There is just something about him – hard to explain – just a feeling.
He lives on the East coast, and I live on the West coast. He has offered to come out for a weekend so we can spend time together but I am very apprehensive. Of course I want to spend more time with him, find out more about him, see if there is anything but I am also scared.
The friends that I have told think I am crazy. They believe that I can’t have a “feeling” about a guy I talked to for 10 minutes. What do you girls think? Am I being crazy? Am I rushing into things?
Oh & just for clarification, when he came to visit he would stay at a hotel, I have already thought about the crazy serial killer ideas!
Post # 3
It is never too soon for love 🙂 I had a friend break off a 5 year relationship with her fiance and meet a new guy at work a couple of weeks later and they are still together and in love to this day. Trust your brain but follow your heart.
Post # 4
Fi and I met online and knew before we even met that it was just right. We have never been apart longer than one day since the day we met and are getting married next year. Follow your heart, not what everyone else tell you. You know you better than anyone!
Post # 5
I think that feeling you speak of is something we all look for! I had it with my Fiance and still do actually. It’s pretty awesome. 🙂 Explore it!
Post # 6
I think you should be adventurous and find explore that feeling! I do think it’s a good idea for him to stay at a hotel while he’s visiting though.
Post # 7
Hey. If it’s his idea to make his way over for a mini vacation for himself, I see no problem in meeting him. Be careful. Be smart. Make sure people know where you are and who you’re with. But it’s not like you’re moving across the country to live with him. It’s one visit. Live a little…safely. 🙂 Personally, I’d make sure he doesn’t think you owe him something. This trip needs to be for him with you as the frosting. You don’t want to be indebted to a stranger. Other than that, I think there’s nothing wrong with exploring this if it’s right.
Post # 8
besides all the crazy serial killer stuff (it was my first thought, i apologize, i watch wayyy too much dateline)
i say go for it – you guys have been talking long enough to know a little bit about each other i hope. i think you would always think what if – if you didnt give it a shot ya know?
I agree that its never too soon for love – i met my husband while i was dating my last boyfriend- my husband worked with my sister. i would meet them for lunch every now and then and he was new to town and def caught my eye but i was a good girlfriend and really loved my ex boyfriend (we dated for 2+ years and talked marriage, i really thought he was the one for me) long story short ex boyfriend breaks up with me. i was devestated but i think w e both knew it was over before it actually was anyway…me being single and lonely and hubby being new in town we started hanging out and about a month later i was “talking” to my future husband. we got engaged a year and half later..the world works in mysterious ways.
Post # 9
Love can find you at the weirdest of times. I was in a long term realationship with my highschool sweetheart. Things weren’t going to well. After 2 1/2 years we broke it off. It was about a month after i went out with some g.f’s and was introduced to my future hubby. We have been together 4 years now and i couldn’t be happier.
Post # 10
It’s too soon to declare your love yes. Is it too soon to explore no.
Post # 11
Thanks ladies! I really do feel the same way as all the comments above, but it’s hard to get excited or continue to feel that way when you have family & friends telling you that I am crazy & it’s a bad idea.
We are planning for a meeting in a month & I am very excited! Fingers crossed it all works out!
Post # 12
@Keely_doll: I don’t think it’s a bad idea to explore and see where things go! If you go out with him while he’s there and don’t get a good vibe after that, then it’s good that he’s across the country. But it definitely wouldn’t hurt to see!
Post # 13
The first time I met Darling Husband I knew in my heart of hearts he was someone that had to be in my life and I was devastated when we parted ways (we met in an elevator) and he didn’t even ask for my number. I met him again a couple of months later thanks to a mutual neighbour and I knew that was it. Unfortunately I was going away for the summer, but I knew inside that it was my last “single” summer and that when I came home I’d be back together with him and that would be that. I can’t explain it, I just knew. I can still remember the first time I laid eyes on him.
I think you should be open to it. Nothing ventured nothing gained right? He may not end up being the love of your life, but he could end up being someone you learn a lot from and that in itself is a valuable experience!
Post # 14
I think that, as long as you’re safe and smart about it, there’s no harm in exploring.
Just use common sense.
Post # 15
I was in a 3 year relationship, we were discussing marriage and I was looking into things but we weren’t engaged, and then we broke up cuz he cheated on me. Hubs had been in a 4 year relationship, and they broke up cuz she had cheated on him. We ran into each other about 3 months later, and have been together ever since, and had known each other for about 10 years prior. I never in a million years would have thought we would have ended up together, but I honestly can’t see myself with anyone other than him. I say, go for it!! You don’t want to think about what if for the rest of your life if you don’t…