- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I’m trying to gauge how weird the following situation is because it’s starting to irritate me.
Basically, my bridesmaid and I have been friends for close to 15 years, since high-school, but I have only met her family twice. Her mother and sister really seem to like me even though we don’t know each-other at all, and I’m really flattered by their attention but it’s getting a little… intense.
When I got engaged, my bridesmaid was happy for me but disinterested in details. My engagement did, however, spark an interest from her mother and sister where they began emailing me regularly with various suggestions. They started emailing me the contact information of people they knew that provide various services (hair & make-up, decorating, florist) on an amateur level (not as a career or business). These people have all been from (far) out-of-town, have no portfolios, don’t offer trials, no websites, no mock-ups, etc. because everything is on an unofficial and amateur level that I’m not comfortable with. I’ve politely thanked the mother & sister for they suggestions and moved on each time. The last time, however, they actually told the amateur make-up artist (a friend who is very in to make-up) to expect my call because I’m ready to hire her. Which made me very uncomfortable.
On top of that, I feel like I can no longer share any of my wedding details or comments with my bridesmaid or on any social media because the mother & sister immediately weigh in with their opinions and requests. When my centrepiece mock-up was done, I told my cousin on facebook that I would send her pics to which bridesmaid’s sis responded that she wanted to come by and look at it, too. This happens pretty regularly even though she lives almost 4 hours away.
I don’t want to seem ungrateful, I do appreciate the attention but I’m a very private and independant person. My mom, sister, fiance and I are doing all the planning on our own and definitely have everything under control. I found out that my bridesmaid’s family now consider my wedding “their wedding too” because she’s in it and I’m “practically family”, which would be flattering if I knew them well at all.
Am I crazy or is this getting weird? I seriously do not feel like I know these people well enough for this level of interest but when I discussed with my mom, she said I should “just appreciate the attention no matter how strange it is”.