(Closed) am i crazy???? please help put my mind at ease!!

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@shel_lee_1:  I think it *could* work but you’ll need to set really clear expectations with him. Will your Fiance be bummed that his bro isn’t in some of the best shots of the ‘fun dance/shot/drink/talk’ etc because he’s busy taking the photos? Will you or FH be mad that some amazing moment wasn’t captured b/c BIL was hanging out with his date/the other groomsman, taking a shot with another guest?

If everyone has very clear expectations going in, it may work out, but if possible, I’d try to find a person who can go strictly to do photography.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

If photography is truly important to you then you should have at least one dedicated professional photographer there to cover the event.  An experienced photographer who specializes in weddings.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@shel_lee_1:  My biggest concern for you here is that this a groomsmen and family member who is obviously very close to all of you. If something were to go wrong (say he missed a shot or the camera fails and he doesn’t have backup equipment or the lighting is a challenge and he’s not used to dealing with it or doesn’t have the equipment to deal with it because he isn’t a wedding photographer) this can become a really big problem that you now have with a family member. There’s a lot of room for resentment and regret here and it’s personally not a risk I would take. No one thinks something bad will happen but all you have to do is scroll through this board and read the stories to know that it can and does happen all the time, especially with folks who aren’t experienced wedding photographers.

You say you get 15 photos in your package – does that mean another photographer will be there?

Post # 7
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6533 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

How do you plan on having your groomsman shoot the wedding? Won’t he be IN the wedding?

One of the reasons I don’t shoot family/friend weddings is that there is no down time. I’m either a guest, or working. It’s really hard to do both. I actually just shot a friend wedding this weekend, and it worked out okay because I didn’t know anyone else so there was no one pulling at me to “hang out” and chat. That being said, it’s not something I would do if I were you.

For close friends, it really sucks that someone would rather have me WORK at their wedding because they want a deal than pay another professional and let me enjoy myself. Just my $.02.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Did Future Brother-In-Law volunteer to do this, or did FH ask him? If Future Brother-In-Law didn’t volunteer, it might not be something he wants to do- he might prefer being a guest, honestly- I would think he’d want to enjoy his brother’s wedding, versus working it.

Post # 10
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@shel_lee_1:  Make sure this is allowed by the resort. They will often not allow this or will charge a hefty fee to use your own photographer. Most photographers also have an exclusivity clause in their contract which you may be in violation of if your groomsman starts shooting.

Also worth considering what you’re asking of the groomsman. It is virtually impossible to be a guest AND the photographer, especially a guest IN the wedding. I did this once and will never, ever, ever do it again. It was way more stressful than I imagined and it was very difficult for me to know throughout the day whether I should be bridesmaid or photographer at any given moment. If you really want him to have a good time it would be really nice to give him the night off. ๐Ÿ˜‰ It’s a destination wedding, it’s his brother getting married . . . he might say yeah sure to your face but any photographer knows how rare it is that we get to actually enjoy a wedding and not work it. Best of luck to you!

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