(Closed) Am I crazy to be the one cooking for my wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Food
Post # 32
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I thought about it for two minutes while in the early stages of planning and my Fiance thought I lost my mind. The closer I get to the wedding the more I think considering it was a horrible idea and I’m pretty much doing everything except making my own dress.

You’ll have enough on your plate (no pun) and the last think you want to think about is the details of preparing a meal for everyone. 

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@anemone681:  Yes, but you’re also AWESOME.  So, probably worth it.

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@anemone681:  It depends on what you want from your wedding. If you want to make the reception more of a low key dinner party, where people jsut relax and chat while you cook suzy miss homemaker style, that might be kind of cute (for a small enough group). People can hang out and chat ad play games and drink while things are getting ready, and you can go old school and have moms and grandmas and aunts help (though that’s a bit more antifemenist than I would like, personally)

 

 

 

If you want to have a formal sit down dinner and for everything to go flawlessly, then, yeah, this is crazy. 😀 But if you want a more home-y tone to your wedding, and you make cooking and preppingt he food a part of it, I don’t see a problem.

 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee

She is thinking of making dishes she successfullymade for 130 people before. She is only having 40-60 guests and is not DIYing anything else. I don’t know why everyone is being so dramatic. It seems to me like she can handle it. 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

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@anemone681:  this dishes you are thinking of doing all sound really yummy.

I actually think you could do it successfully, especially if only 40-50 guests come.

Goodluck with whatever you choose to do. 

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@anemone681:  I get it as I wanted to do this myself, but I knew there was no way people would let me go through with it. My family and friends aren’t laid back enough for that. I know it’s been successfully done before and you can find a lot of stories online, but this really depends on the factors including how many guests, what catering/cooking experience you have, will it be a cocktail reception or meal or both, etc.

Post # 42
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@anemone681:  It sounds like you can handle it, no problem, especially if you get a little help!

My sisters and I are doing all of the cooking and baking for my sister’s wedding at the end of August (around 100 guests). She chose foods that can easily be made ahead of time in slowcookers, and we have family friends volunteering to man the kitchen and serve the day of the wedding. With proper preparation, I think it will be worth a little stress when compared to the money she’s saving.

Good luck, and I’ll let you know how we do in a few weeks!

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

“pot roast with merlot sauce, mashed potatoes and roasted veggies … a chicken breast in a honey apple cream sauce or a rack of pork”

 

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@anemone681:  

I was going to ask the server bit, but it sounds like you’ve got it covered! Hopefully the servers you hire will also know how to carve a pork and chicken.

60 people is do-able. It would just mean a lot of prep-work before. I don’t think you are crazy though! (Leaving the cake to another person is smart!) $40 per person for most pasta dishes is insane!

Personally, I think it’s cute. I don’t think cooking for wedding guests is crazy, especially if you’re using the oven for most of it, but I’m the type of person who enjoys cooking and entertaining for a small group (under 10).

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes you’re nuts. I was thinking of cooking the food for my rehearsal dinner (BBQ) and I even scrapped that idea! You really want to enjoy you day. From what I hear it goes by really fast.

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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@bunnyharriet: +1

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@anemone681:  I don’t know if I would do this personally, but I also don’t have experience with dinner parties or serving big groups of people like you do. I say take some time to think it over and what sort of feel you guys want from your reception. And see if there are family members or friends who would be able and willing to make other dishes that can be frozen and dropped off ahead of the ceremony for re-heating (home-made lasagna is excellent for this).

I do think it’s a good idea to save money, but (like other have said) think about whether you will be able to keep the foods at the proper temperatures and whether it would be too much stress for you right before the wedding.

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