(Closed) Am I crazy? Wedding Traditions

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

We got married in a Catholic church and didn’t have the unity candle or sand ceremony.  I didn’t really want them either but before I mentioned them the priest discouraged us from having them.  We also didn’t have a communion because neither me nor most of my family is Catholic and it would have made me feel uncomfortable and the priest also agreed that that’s a lousy way to start off a marriage with discomfort in half the congregation (and the bride). 

So I don’t think you’re crazy.

Post # 4
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134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My ceremony is completely nonreligious and a mishmash of a few things too.  It can be whatever you want it to be.  Sidenote: Lots of people will give you thier opinions along the way…be sure to stay true to what you and your future fiance want.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Do whatever you like!  We’re getting married by a protestant pastor in a field with a pagan aspect in our ceremony and a community commitment that isn’t “religious” at all.

it’s your wedding, you and your FH have to love it – that’s all!

ps-if you’re not engaged yet, you may even change your mind between now and wedding time.  i had never put a whole lot of thought into a wedding before getting engaged (i really thought i wasn’t the marrying type) but since researching ceremonies in the past few months have discovered a ton of stuff i love, that i had no idea existed!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

focus less on what is “traditional” or commonplace, and morea bout what YOU want to make your day special! if you want to ride around on an elephant, by means, do it!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You aren’t crazy at all.  I think meaningful is far more important than traditional.  If is meaningful to you to do something the same way that brides have been doing it for years…then use it.  If it’s not…dump it.  If something else is meaningful to you and your Fiance…then find a way to include it.  In the end, the vows are between you and him and what’s important is that they mean something to the two of you.

DISCLAIMER: If someone else is paying…all bets are off.

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