Post # 1
I’m not engaged yet, but I have some pretty strong opinions already about my wedding. I don’t really want to do a unity candle or sand thingy. And because I’m not super religious and my SO is atheist, we won’t do a communion. (I’d love to, but I respect his beliefs)
Anyways, the two traditions that I’ve grown to LOVE are completely unrelated to eachother. I really want to jump the broown (neither of us are African-American). I think the tradition that it speaks to is beautiful.
And I also want to include the 1001 cranss in our wedding. A couple months ago all of my guy friends went on a bachelor climbing/camping trip, and left us girls with a scavenger hunt to keep us girls busy. One of the items was to make an oragami crane…needless to say, we my team didn’t get tthat done. So the next time we all hung out, my SO made me one out of a beer label (classy I know). Anyways, I still have the little thing and it always makes me smile.
Am I totally off the wall?
Post # 3
We got married in a Catholic church and didn’t have the unity candle or sand ceremony. I didn’t really want them either but before I mentioned them the priest discouraged us from having them. We also didn’t have a communion because neither me nor most of my family is Catholic and it would have made me feel uncomfortable and the priest also agreed that that’s a lousy way to start off a marriage with discomfort in half the congregation (and the bride).
So I don’t think you’re crazy.
Post # 4
My ceremony is completely nonreligious and a mishmash of a few things too. It can be whatever you want it to be. Sidenote: Lots of people will give you thier opinions along the way…be sure to stay true to what you and your future fiance want.
Post # 5
Do whatever you like! We’re getting married by a protestant pastor in a field with a pagan aspect in our ceremony and a community commitment that isn’t “religious” at all.
it’s your wedding, you and your FH have to love it – that’s all!
ps-if you’re not engaged yet, you may even change your mind between now and wedding time. i had never put a whole lot of thought into a wedding before getting engaged (i really thought i wasn’t the marrying type) but since researching ceremonies in the past few months have discovered a ton of stuff i love, that i had no idea existed!
Post # 6
focus less on what is “traditional” or commonplace, and morea bout what YOU want to make your day special! if you want to ride around on an elephant, by means, do it!
Post # 7
Oh man! An elephant. Yes…I think that would be a PERFECT entrance. hehehe. Only kidding. Kind of.
Post # 8
You aren’t crazy at all. I think meaningful is far more important than traditional. If is meaningful to you to do something the same way that brides have been doing it for years…then use it. If it’s not…dump it. If something else is meaningful to you and your Fiance…then find a way to include it. In the end, the vows are between you and him and what’s important is that they mean something to the two of you.
DISCLAIMER: If someone else is paying…all bets are off.