(Closed) Am I dating too soon? Need at outsiders perspective- please help

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@AussieSummer:  I think if you feel ready, and you really actually like him (not just wanting to have a boyfriend again), then go for it!

Post # 18
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2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@AussieSummer: There isn’t a right or wrong time when you are single and someone makes you happy! I met and started dating my current SO/love of my life about 5 months after I left my ex-husband. I wasn’t looking for love or another relationship but it just happened and it felt and still feels so right. Unless you take a chance you’ll never know so I say go for it!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It’s not too early to start dating – it is too soon for all your happiness to center around this guy, so be careful.  You’re 21 and you dated your ex for almost 5 years? 21 is very young.  There’s lots of time to explore being a single adult, growing as a person outside a relationship, and learning how to be happy by yourself.  I know this is “Weddingbee”, but I think 21 is a good time to decide “who am I?”, as a stepping stone towards “who should I marry?”   

That said, it’s awesome that you’re meeting new people and are interested in new things and forgetting about your ex.  

Post # 20
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607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Something may not come of it, but hey – have fun; it’s a great way to keep your mind off the ex even it it doesn’t work out with the new guy. 

 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@AussieSummer:  I think timing is all you.  Its personal.  What you are doing now sounds good for you.  Im not sure if you need to tell him right now when you were dumped.  Have you had the ‘exs’ talk?  I never did with DH, but I didnt really care either.  He may not care either and still want to persue you, but it could scare him too into thinking he is just a rebound.  He might leave or distance himself from you cause he doesnt want to get hurt.   IF I were you, I would wait until you were in a relationship with him.  At that point he should feel better about you as a couple and not be freaked out about being a rebound.  Just in case that is how he would feel. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@MrsMagillToBe:  1+ i don’t think theres a right “time” as long as you are over your ex and not rebounding

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@AussieSummer:  

It all depends on how YOU feel. It seems quick from an outsider’s perspective, but who cares what other’s think?

Just take it slow and don’t get too wrapped up in a guy you just started dating. The beginning is always wonderful. 

Post # 24
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671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I met my Fiance 2 weeks after breaking up with my ex. After the night we met we didn’t speak again for about three months. Then he got my number from a mutual friend and we started dating but I knew the second we met there was something special there. Just do what feels right. I think the best way to know if you’re over your ex is you feel apathetic towards them. I wasn’t mad at my ex, didn’t hate him and I also definitely didn’t love him or like him I just felt nothing so I was free to feel whatever I wanted with this awesome new guy.

Good luck!! 🙂

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@AussieSummer:  I dumped my ex on a Saturday, and was on a date with Fiance by the following Sunday. Not quite what I meant to happen! I think you should take it slow (he and I dated for 2 months before labeling ourselves) and see what happens.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AussieSummer:   I kind of feel obliged to tell this guy (he knows I was dumped last year, but not  when) that we should be taking things really slow because I don’t want to  relapse
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Can you explain what you mean when you say you are afraid to “relapse”? What does that mean? Do you mean to say “rebound”?

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