(Closed) Am I doing the right thing

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Still go ahead with the wedding
    Yes definitely : (48 votes)
    80 %
    no - postpone to a better time : (2 votes)
    3 %
    you are being silly : (10 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1348 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    If everyone has paid for tickets, I would definitely still go ahead with it. As your family has said, it’s something to look forward to, and bali is superrrr cheap, so really they’ve probably paid for the most expensive part already.

    I’m sorry for your loss.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1066 posts
    Bumble bee

    The wedding will give them something to smile about. If they say it is fine, then don’t worry..It will be a beautiful family holiday which everyone will enjoy x

    Post # 6
    Member
    260 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1999

    My dad is ill with cancer (well in remission at the mo but it will, indefinately come back at ‘some point’ we know that much). I live in constant fear of my dad dying and not making it to the wedding, but I know it is one of the major things he wants from me (last year before we were engaged and he was really ill he’d be all like ‘I’m going to phone up _____ and force him to marry you. I just want to see you settled’). My friend lost her dad a few months before her wedding and went ahead with it, I do think that – although difficult – it woudl be a great way to honour him x

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    8882 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I would go ahead as planned, gives the family a chance to have a happy moment, which would be a nice break from the sadness.

    Post # 8
    Member
    924 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I  think you should go ahead as planned. It will be a happy time for everyone.

    Post # 9
    Member
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    The trip sounds like a great idea.   All your  family  together for something happy.  My brother passed away two weeks before my other brother’s wedding, and I can honestly say that wedding was a much needed celebration.  The same people we saw two weeks before for a funeral were with us celebrating a wonderful event.  Take a breath… it will all work out!

    Post # 10
    Member
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    I am so sorry for your loss, and for your family’s difficulties, the breakup of the friend’s marriage, etc. What a tough time for all of you to be going through.

    As the PPs have said, since the plane tickets are probably already bought, and the costs won’t be that high once they arrive, it’s probably best to keep the plans and look at it as an opportunity for your family to celebrate life and renewal even in the shadow of death. Your father will be there in spirit. I’m sure, too, that he would want you all to have a lovely time.

    Post # 11
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    4951 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would go ahead with it. If some people can’t make it, it’ll be disappointing. But your wedding day should/will still be special, even if it turns out just the two of you.

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