- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
Hi! I am new to this board (waiting!) and this is my first post! I am here because I researched support on the web for people thinking and going through the same thing I am right now. First of all, I have to say all the support I have seen on here for all the women struggling while waiting is so awesome, so I thought this would be a good place to start…no one is judged and I don’t feel so alone, so thanks in advance for any response!!
So I am looking for a bit of a reality check, because I am on cloud freaking 9, but don’t know if I should be! LOL. Almost a week ago, I gave SO a poem that I had been working on for 2 months. It was about my feelings for him (basically my heart threw up all over it) and at the end, I wrote out a verse asking if I can be his wife. So, I guess I proposed marriage to him, but it really was my way of opening the door for a serious discussion about marriage. We have had the standard talks of wanting marriage, but never with each other. So I guess we will call it what we will. After he read the poem, he looked up at me with tears in his eyes, told me “yes of course I want to marry you” and hugged and kissed me. The he asked “why havent we talked about this sooner?” I laughed and agreed, and we both decided it was because we were both thinking of it and wanting it but we were too shy to bring it up to the other 😉 So, I asked him if we were officially engaged and he said he didn’t want it to be official until he got me a ring. Understandable and very sweet. So of course his family and friends and my family and friends are all on board with this and asking if they can start telling people we are engaged. Of course we said not yet, because of the whole ring thing. So, now I guess we are Pre-enaged. I never thought I would ever use this term but it’s true. I am totally excited and even doing a little planning here and there. I would love to get married in the spring of 2014, because that will give me a little over a year to plan a nice wedding. I am hoping to make it official at the latest by spring this year. However, since the conversation, no additional talk of the ring or tentative date has happened
So the question is, how do I go about life without this hanging over my head?? I feel like I am obsessing about making this official, cause this in between stuff sucks! LOL. There is no way I want to bring this up to him either, because I know he gets the message and will do his thing. Has this happened to any of you before, where you were sort of in limbo? What did you do to help until you both could make it official? And, after you two had a serious talk about wanting to get married to eachother, how long did you wait before he proposed? I’m almost 28 and he’s 29 btw, live together and are very stable financially, been together for a year and although it doesnt seem very long have both discussed how right we are for eachother.