(Closed) Am I engaged?!? (just for fun)

posted 4 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Am I engaged?
    Yep! : (20 votes)
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  • Post # 2
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    8856 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’m one who always says you don’t need a ring or OTT proposal to be engaged, but there does have to be some kind of decision. Someone has to ask and the other has to answer (seriously), or maybe it comes out more mutually during a conversation or something, but there’s still an element of “we are both in agreement that we are now engaged” rather than a general agreement that we’ll get married someday, or we’ll be engaged soon. It definitely sounds like you’re planning an engagement, but I would not consider you engaged at this point.

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by  Daisy_Mae.
    Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I see it after a serious proposal with or without ring. Or the fact your rocking a ring on THAT finger.

    ilovesophia:  

    Post # 4
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    886 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    ilovesophia:  I’m in pretty much an identical situation to you – I know we will be getting married in 12/13 months but no formal proposal (although he ‘asks’ me daily). I do not consider myself engaged yet but I get the other perspective. I guess I’m waiting for the actual formal proposal too! 

    Post # 5
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    574 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m in a similar place, wedding booked but were waiting on the ring. I don’t feel we’re engaged cause a) he hasn’t asked officially b) I don’t have my ring c) we haven’t announced it to anyone 

    Post # 6
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    486 posts
    Helper bee

    My SO tells me all the time that he wants to marry me and I readily admit that I also can’t wait.  We’ve discussed rings and some wedding details.  Our parents and friends all know it’ll be happening eventually.  With that said, I won’t consider us engaged until he proposes, and that’s when we’ll officially announce it to everyone.

    Post # 7
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    9595 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    No. No formal proposal, no ring, no date or vendors booked… Itd say you guys are vocal daydreamers but not engaged. 

    Post # 8
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    534 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I consider a couple engaged when they have a proposal, announce it, or set a definitive time for the wedding.  My fiancé and I have been talking about marriage for years, but I only considered us engaged when we decided that it was going to be next summer.  It changed getting married from a thing we will probably do in the future to something concrete that we are planning. Ours is a bit more complicated I guess, because we didn’t do the proposal or the ring, which are the traditional markers of when engagement begins.  

    ETA: I would not consider you engaged until you set a solid timeframe for the wedding or there is a proposal.

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by  hyacinths.
    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Not engaged. 

    Post # 11
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    534 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    ilovesophia:  I didn’t see anything about that in your post, so then yes, you are engaged.  If it’s definitely “we are getting married next September or October” and not “we will get married in 2017 maybe” then I consider that an engagement. 

    Post # 14
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    260 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    ilovesophia:  

    maybe that’s the differentiating factor to me – that we’re not announcing anything yet, so it’s not official.

    I feel the exact same way! We’re getting married November 2017 or March 2018 (based on residency that I hope I get) but I’m not telling my family that without an official proposal so I don’t count it. 

    Post # 15
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    313 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I had an ex say “we just got engaged, lets prolong the excitement and ring shop for a little while”.  There were shared finances and wedding talk.  We definitely weren’t engaged.  I’m glad I didn’t go announcing it.  I broke up with him 3 months later when it was clear he wasn’t going to follow through.  

    Sometimes wedding/marriage talk is just talk to keep a woman around.  I’d like to think that most men aren’t that shady, but cold feet happen.  I’m glad I waited on telling people because I had no ring and no date set.  I’d wait until I had a ring or a date set to call myself engaged. 

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