(Closed) Am I expecting to much? Maybe I got the wrong dress?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think you might have gotten everyone at a bad time.  You picked the dress you loved and that is what is important.  They will love the dress, maybe you should post it?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would say a whole spiel about how I’m sure it’s great and the only person that needs to like it is you, etc.  But the truth is, you want to feel amazing in this dress and not self-conscious or unsure, so if it’s bothering you this much, I don’t think you should just blow it off.  I’d bring a friend whose opinion you trust and ask for very honest feedback.  If she says she doesn’t like it, then you have to decide if that bothers you or if you don’t care.  But since it sounds like people are picking at your weight, maybe the concern is that it doesn’t fit properly or something, in which case you can always get alterations.  I just think that you need to feel confident about your dress, and if you’re having serious doubts, I don’t think you should ignore them completely.

Or you could post a picture on Weddingbee and get a crapload of feedback from people who will be honest but nice.  But you’d still need to decide if our approval is enough.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Do you have a pic of you in the dress?  I just think it’s different for pepole who are seeing the dress b/c you always get this picture in your head of you crying, your mom, Future Mother-In-Law, bridesmaid etc getting a tear in their eye when you know you’ve found the one, but I honestly don’t think that happens.  When I tried on my dress, I knew I loved it but I didn’t really get a strong reaction from anyone either…  as long as you love it, you shouldn’t second guess it! Don’t let what other people say make you second guess your decision

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can see how that would affect you – my family liked my dress, but wanted me to get another one instead, and I still wonder if I picked the right one.

 

I agree with PP – find a friend who you know will give you an honest opinion, but won’t be concerned about things like your weight, and see what they think. I’m sure they’ll love it, but if you still have doubts, maybe you need to rethink things, because you want to LOVE your dress.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I kind of get mixed reviews when I show people pictures of my dress (I don’t have any of me in the dress). I’m sorry you didn’t have the experience you were hoping for! :-/

I think you look very pretty and happy in your dress!

Post # 9
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Honestly you look very nice in your dress, I wouldn’t even think to mention your weight. I love the top detail of your dress and at the waist. Very pretty.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it looks great!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think you look STUNNING! 

 

I had a similar experience with my dress – I went first with a friend and found THE ONE. I was so excited about (aside from the price which was waaaay out of range), I couldn’t wait to show my mother – she’s the one that offered to buy the dress. I felt that at the very least she’d agree that it was perfect and try to find a similar style for a better price. But when I showed her, there wasn’t that reaction that you want to see… I don’t know.. 

after that, I decided that the dress was too perfect – like a dream come true – and just ended up buying it myself. 

I still don’t know if she loves it but it doesn’t matter, it’s so me and all my friends agree. I feel so pretty in it and can’t wait to wear it. 

You should feel as beautiful as you look – you look like a storybook bride, just gorgeous. I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to think about those comments. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You look beautiful!  I didn’t want to blindly say everything was fine, just in case it truly was unflattering, but I think you look fantastic.  Maybe your grandmother just has a bit of a conservative view and isn’t accustomed to the strapless trend (which shows a lot of skin).  Anyway, I think it’s great, and the A-line corset-style is so flattering on most people, you being no exception.  I wouldn’t worry about it, but seriously model it for one of your excitable friends, just so she can scream appropriately and you can have a happy dance about it.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

It’s a beautiful dress on you!! As far as the weight comment when we first got engaged M’s cousin told me that she knew a grade personal trainer. My response “for what”.  People just expect brides to be OCD about weight and looking a certain way.  I think you look perfect and  happy which is the way a bride should look.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you look beautiful in the dress! I’m so sorry you didn’t get the reaction you were hoping for but don’t let it get you down! You look amazing!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You look gorgeous in that dress to me… and as AngelS stated, I didn’t even think about your weight when I saw the pic.  I’d actually forgotten about that comment until I reread your original post.

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