Post # 1
I was just informed that a few of the guests invited to my bridal shower were bringing their boyfriends. I think this is kind of rude because showers are suppose to be women only and my fiance is not invited. I expressed my feelings to my “MOH” (who is hosting this event) and her reply was, “Just be happy people are even coming” RUDE AGAIN! Right?! Please tell me I’m not crazy in my thinking!!
Post # 8
@SweeTart85: They were not “Jack & Jill” invites. They were addressed to the women. The women said they were bringing their boyfriends for whatever reason. I was under the impression that showers were “women only” so I was a little weirded out that men were going to be present and not my fiance.
Post # 10
I would be upset because Fiance is not allowed to be there and other men are.
Post # 11
why don’t you go ahead and bring your fiance along since it looks like the other girls are bringing the bfs?
i don’t think it’s rude but a little bizarre. i try not to let other people’s inappropriateness bother me too much. i say you just go to the shower and try to have a good time. the guys will soon feel out of place at a bridal shower.
what your Maid/Matron of Honor said was not nice. she should have worded it a bit better. if you had to chose between the girls showing up with their bfs or not showing up at all, what would you choose?
Post # 13
You’re not hosting it so it’s not really up to you, weird yes, but out of your control. Just bring your Fiance. Send the boys to the bar. Problem solved 🙂
Post # 15
@profiterole: I would rather have the friends with b/fs be there as opposed to no one showing up at all. But at the same time, I wish it could have been understood that it was either women only or “Jack & Jill”. I think it’s impolite to even consider bringing your boyfriend to a shower when its traditionally understood as women only unless it states co-ed. I really am considering bringing my fiance now…
Post # 16
i know it sucks. your moh should have pushed the girls only rule a little more since she’s hosting. some people just have no manners. come on, do they really need to be with each other every second of every day. my bf would say, “great, you go have fun with the girls. i’m going golfing or fishing.”
Post # 17
I can totally see why you would be upset, since Bridal showers are typically women’s event. IF it were a Jack & Jill (Co-Ed) and your fiance was invited, that would be one thing… but it sounds like your guests can’t pry themselves away from their boyfriends for a few hours. YOur MOMH, as the hostess of the event, should have made it known that it was not ok to bring BF’s.
Post # 18
I personally would be upset because if my own Fiance isn’t invited then their boyfriends shouldnt be either.. and yes it usually is a woman only thing majority of the time
Post # 19
What guy wants to go to a girl’s bridal shower???
Are they all meeting up and going somewhere together to hang out during the shower?
Why don’t you tell them it’s a women-only party?
Post # 20
It’s rude to bring someone with you to a party who is not invited, period. Your friends are being plain rude. Perhaps the invitation was worded in an ambiguous way?
I can’t really think of what would possess one person, let alone several, to think it’s okay to bring someone with them to a shower, male or female!
However, it’s not worth being upset about- you can’t really say or do anything about it without making the situation worse.
Bring your Fiance, enjoy being showered with gifts, and best wishes!
Post # 21
Iwould be upset if your Fiance isnt allowed and other guys are going to be there, but if it was turning into a coed shower that could be fun. all the ones I have been to were really fun.