(Closed) Am I getting upset for nothing? Bridal Shower…

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2261 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

someone likes bold print … 😉 

 I guess that depends… if it’s a personal shower for all things sexy, YES… that is uncomfortable and a little weird. 

If it’s just a household items shower or something like that… more and more people find it acceptable to invite male and female friends. Some showers are even for the couple as a whole and called ‘jack and jill’ showers. 

I would only say it’s rude if this is a sexy little things shower or if these people are completely uninvited by your Maid/Matron of Honor, she is the one hosting and would have to feed/make sure extra guests were comfortable. 

Post # 4
4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would be mad because if it is a not a co ed shower men should not be there. And what guy would even want to go to a bridal shower… Also the comment from you Maid/Matron of Honor is rude. But in fact no one HAS to come so what she is saying is true just not said very nice…

Post # 4
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

This is very, very strange to me.  Showers, at least in my region, have ALWAYS been women only.  I’m not even sure why a man would WANT to come to one.  No man I know would be caught dead at a bridal or baby shower, even if he was invited.  Kinda reminds me of my step-cousin’s fiance.  He has to go EVERYWHERE with her.  Even if it is a predominately female event. 

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my husband wouldnt want to be dragged to a bridal shower – if its ladies only invite then the guys are going to feel out of place soon enough, if its a couples invite then as my hubby would say, “dude, wheres your man card?”

Post # 5
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The last few showers I attended were all co-ed. Both baby showers and wedding showers. I think it’s becoming more typical. Especially if you are inviting far flung friends and relatives.

Post # 6
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think it would be OK, EXCEPT that your FH isn’t invited!!  At least if it was co-ed, you invite the groom…just bizzare.  Don’t think you’re overreacting, but in the end it’s probably not a big deal, just weird.

Post # 7
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s a little strange that there’d be men at a bridal shower! Unless the invites go out and make it clear that it’s a Jack and Jill type shower, I would think men would steer clear! Hope everything works out!

Post # 9
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

yep. I’d be pissed, too!

Post # 10
2691 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I would be upset because Fiance is not allowed to be there and other men are.

Post # 11
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

why don’t you go ahead and bring your fiance along since it looks like the other girls are bringing the bfs?

i don’t think it’s rude but a little bizarre.  i try not to let other people’s inappropriateness bother me too much.  i say you just go to the shower and try to have  a good time.  the guys will soon feel out of place at a bridal shower. 

what your Maid/Matron of Honor said was not nice.  she should have worded it a bit better.  if you had to chose between the girls showing up with their bfs or not showing up at all, what would you choose?

Post # 13
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’re not hosting it so it’s not really up to you, weird yes, but out of your control. Just bring your Fiance. Send the boys to the bar. Problem solved 🙂

Post # 14
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeah…. weird.

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